I (20M) cannot get over a fuckin high school girl (21F). I meet this girl back in high school before covid and it was the classic I chase her and she’s not interested until I’m not interested then we date. It started off just strictly sexual and then we ended up dating. We did have our huge ups and downs but ended up breaking up after 6 months. It was mainly my choice but she wants to say it is mutual. Deep down I wanted to talk to other girls and wanted to explore. I only felt like this bc we would constantly fight over the stupidest things and she would say some pretty nasty things. We ended up being on and off for a year and a half until we finally cut it off. In that year and a half I did my fair share of meaningless hookups and it was horrible. Wasted my time and energy with those girls. For the most part I kept them well hidden from her. And I’m sure she was exploring with other guys too. Although she did find out about 1 girl. Me and her were were very alike. We couldn’t get over our exs but still wanted to do stuff in the mean time. To put a long story short, my ex found out, got mad and forgave me but then we stopped talking and I would go back to this other girl every time we stopped talking. And then me and my ex had one final fight and ended it for good. I thought that we would start talking again in a week or 2 but she didn’t respond to my texts calls anything. I blew up her phone and nothing. Come to find out, 2 months after we stopped talking she’s dating the ex boyfriend of the girl I was messing around with. Absolutely killed me. It has been about 8 months since we last talked and about 2 and a half years since we dated and every single day I wake up and think about her. I try to not check her social media (the ones I’m not blocked on) but I catch myself doing it. I can’t go a day without thinking about this girl and I know it’s all my fault. It’s my fault we aren’t dating still. And she has the biggest fuck you in the world. I’ve recently been trying to move on so bad but I’ve genuinely lost all hope of moving on. Please someone give me advice
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Seems to me that you are only missing the sex here.
People move on at different rates, focus on yourself and everything else would be fixed. You can’t move on from something if you’re not ready to move on. It would also probably help a lot if you tried for actual loving relationships and not just meaningless sex with no emotions involved. try to get your emotions involved it might help you in the long run.