Men who use dating apps: Have you encountered what I have, where women seem to over emphasize ‘travel’ or ‘adventure’ as essential experiences or requirements?
May 24, 2026
How do you feel if you do? And do any of you enjoy or insist on travel the way some of these women seem to?
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I’m good with that because I travel more than all of them combined. Doesn’t mean I’m taking them with me though lol
I don’t know if they’re overemphasizing, but photos from IG-popular towns suffering from overtourism with no imagination past copy-paste locations were quite common. It does feel like they’re just parroting what social media tells them to like than having their own interests and ideas.
I ignore it. Same as women that say they like to have fun and laugh. Yeah, like every other fucking person alive. You like to go on vacation? How unique.
I swipe past them, I’m not huge into traveling as I don’t get fulfilment out of it. An occasional trip sure, but I’m way more comfortable and happy at home.
“I love to travel” is a class indicator. They can’t say “I only fuck guys with money” but they can say “I want to see the world with you”
Ya, it has become a social status thing, and while I enjoy traveling, that doesn’t mean I’m paying her way everytime which is also seeming to become the expectation too.
Yes. I run away from people who treat “travel experiences” as some distinguishing personality trait.
Booking a trip and building an itinerary from instagram is not depth in personality. It’s just spending money and succumbing to social media pressure.
Somehow social media has convinced us that spending a chunk of your earnings visiting Japan is “normal” and a “must” as a 30 something with debt, living in an expensive economy.
Japan is an awesome place though. Just making this an aspect of your personality is really dull.
I knew a woman who said she divorced her husband because he never traveled. She would go places and he would stay home.
Some use it as their whole personality.
I personally love to travel but it can be expensive which i think is a way a woman can filter if a man makes good money.
Some people are happy to sit in there home town and do the same things for the rest of their life.
People like to travel. What’s the problem?
Back when I used them, it wasnt uncommon to see a bio with the singular word “travel”. Not even, ‘I like travel!’
I don’t think they’re overemphasizing? When I was on dating apps I also emphasized travel because it’s my main hobby and where I prioritize my money and time. Thankfully my wife likes to travel as much as I do or it would be an incompatibility. It sounds like it’s just not that much of a priority for you, but that doesn’t mean they’re “overemphasizing” it.
I find that all of those little details matter way more than I realized now that im middle aged. As someone who loves to travel, if you don’t like to, then there really isn’t gonna be anything here. Especially after being w someone who wouldn’t tag along on my adventures for many years. The little things I’ve overlooked in terms of compatibility have always come to the forefront years later.
I don’t mind. Met a lady once who hadn’t travelled much apart from in and around UK. She put she likes travel on her profile.
I would’ve liked to have had the opportunity to date her because she was honest about her travel experiences.
Not everyone’s travel experience has to involve lots of different countries. I would’ve liked to show her other countries. Those women are rare and genuine, in my opinion.
Yes. i don’t see a problem with it. They want to see the world. if they can afford it and yall can afford it🤷🏾♂️
My now wife and I met on tinder and took our first international trip within 6 months of meeting. I love traveling.
It’s pretty common. A lot of my male friends have the money to but don’t. So I totally understand
Plus there are “Vacation people” and “travel people”. If the wrong type get together one will be dragging the other along. The people who want to go to Cancun and sit on a beach, or Disney every year should not be with people who want to backpack Vietnam.
it’s an easy but suboptimal way to filter for men who are boring, shut-in, or otherwise have no life experience outside of their hometown. it’s not an unreasonable preference, and i also think that it’s a simple conversation to have.
I’m married so I’m not on apps now but I think that it’s valid for someone who likes traveling to make sure that a potential partner likes to travel as well.
I don’t think there’s *that* much you can read into it because it *could* mean a bunch of different things.
Openness to experience is one of the big five personality traits, and I think it is important for partners to be compatible on that dimension.
While I didn’t put it front-and-center in my dating profile back in the day, my wife wouldn’t be my wife if we didn’t share a similar desire to see the world. Early in our relationship we talked about the places we’d been and the places we dream of going, our ideal vacations etc. It was important to me that her idea of a good time included driving a campervan around the ring road in Iceland, camping in national parks, going to spectacular places as cheaply as possible, etc – not just parking our butts at a luxury resort somewhere or visiting first world cities or spending precious PTO sitting at home.
On the other hand, I’ve seen enough such profiles to know that there’s a whiff of unstated classism in some of the profiles you’re alluding to. They’re filtering for people who can afford plane tickets and spending time in foreign countries. Even “low cost” travel (backpacking, hostels, etc) is only accessible to people with a fair bit of privilege. So a cynical read is they’re saying “looking for someone with money”.
Also a lot of people do use it as a substitute for any sort of hobbies or other ambitions. “I like to travel” could easily mean “I had a good time on a family trip to Europe years ago and I’m bringing it up because I have nothing else exciting in my life” not “I organize my life around it”. It could easily mean they’re a rather boring person.
So basically I think it’s a legitimate thing to express and seek out in a partner, but there are some related attitudes to look out for that would act as red flags.
When I was dating, I would put things like “I like to travel” in the summary. I was never obnoxious about it, like some of the phrases I’ve seen floating around here. To a certain degree, I agree that everyone likes to travel.
After meeting my partner (not on an app), I’ve learned that some people really don’t like to travel. I’m fine with going to Guatemala and staying in a hostel or just driving and car or tent camping. My partner is very selective on where to travel and where to stay.
So, I thinking mentioning it is valuable if you care about it but I also think a blanket statement doesn’t help narrow down the type of travel you specifically like.
Eh, men have that in their profiles a lot too
I have no clue what you are talking about. Most people like traveling regardless of gender. My fondest memories are often vacations across the world.
I feel like that is a fairly reasonable thing to care about in a relationship. Traveling is one of those activities that you need your SO to be into or you aren’t going to be able to do it. Like it would be weird if you’re girlfriend/wife had an issue with you spending a few hours at a friends house playing poker on a weekly basis if they aren’t into it, but most people aren’t going to be onboard with you backpacking around Europe/Asia/South America while they stay at home, and even if they were, you’d probably prefer to share those experiences with them.
On top of that being into travel and adventure tends to say some semi important things about your everyday life as well. People who like to travel tend to be more open to experience which means they’re more likely to want to try new things closer to home as well vs preferring the well known and routine.
I mean this is true off of apps too. I think it’s a way of saying that they love to get out in the world and seek experiences, make things happen – and they want someone who will take an active role in that. Which, honestly? Same.
Count me in ( as a male) loves to travel, need woman that loves same! I have money but prefer to stay free in my camper in Baja while I surf, or hostels in Morroco etc or low end hotels while travelling , so yes money no issue but high end hotels are not my tribe. Does money attract honey, yes and no, its a bonus and if they have zero money its not my honey.
This depends on what people want with their lives and how they can afford to spend their time.
Lots of people enjoy travelling. There’s a reason tourism keeps so many places in the world afloat. I don’t really think you can say they’re ’over emphasizing’ it unless you know them and that they don’t actually care about travel, or if you have some objective, universal understanding of travel being pointless?
Travel has been essential for my life experience but that doesn’t mean travel is the only way for someone to enjoy life.
It’s also (to a degree) a class indicator. People who actively travel (I’d say 1+ times a year, on planes) can’t be poor (or they’re in massive debt) but people who travel yearly aren’t like super rich either. Cheap flights are everywhere if people are hunting deals.
Basically: if it’s not important to you, and they say it’s important to them, just move on. They aren’t for you.
I mean I love traveling too, and would love to find someone with that interest. I don’t think it’s something to get worked up over.
A dating app at its best helps people find dating partners with similar interests.
Someone saying they love to travel or that they enjoy adventures doesn’t have any deeper meaning outside of “I want to find a partner who also likes to do things I do.”
It’s a filter, that’s it. This questions seems aimed at saying a big group of women are using it as a back door way to say “pay for me”, and quite frankly if that’s what you’re taking from it I do not believe you will be successful on dating apps.
You will meet weird people, and selfish people, and people you don’t click with. That’s dating, with or without an app.
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I’m good with that because I travel more than all of them combined. Doesn’t mean I’m taking them with me though lol
I don’t know if they’re overemphasizing, but photos from IG-popular towns suffering from overtourism with no imagination past copy-paste locations were quite common. It does feel like they’re just parroting what social media tells them to like than having their own interests and ideas.
I ignore it. Same as women that say they like to have fun and laugh. Yeah, like every other fucking person alive. You like to go on vacation? How unique.
I swipe past them, I’m not huge into traveling as I don’t get fulfilment out of it. An occasional trip sure, but I’m way more comfortable and happy at home.
“I love to travel” is a class indicator. They can’t say “I only fuck guys with money” but they can say “I want to see the world with you”
Ya, it has become a social status thing, and while I enjoy traveling, that doesn’t mean I’m paying her way everytime which is also seeming to become the expectation too.
Yes. I run away from people who treat “travel experiences” as some distinguishing personality trait.
Booking a trip and building an itinerary from instagram is not depth in personality. It’s just spending money and succumbing to social media pressure.
Somehow social media has convinced us that spending a chunk of your earnings visiting Japan is “normal” and a “must” as a 30 something with debt, living in an expensive economy.
Japan is an awesome place though. Just making this an aspect of your personality is really dull.
I knew a woman who said she divorced her husband because he never traveled. She would go places and he would stay home.
Some use it as their whole personality.
I personally love to travel but it can be expensive which i think is a way a woman can filter if a man makes good money.
Some people are happy to sit in there home town and do the same things for the rest of their life.
People like to travel. What’s the problem?
Back when I used them, it wasnt uncommon to see a bio with the singular word “travel”. Not even, ‘I like travel!’
I don’t think they’re overemphasizing? When I was on dating apps I also emphasized travel because it’s my main hobby and where I prioritize my money and time. Thankfully my wife likes to travel as much as I do or it would be an incompatibility. It sounds like it’s just not that much of a priority for you, but that doesn’t mean they’re “overemphasizing” it.
I find that all of those little details matter way more than I realized now that im middle aged. As someone who loves to travel, if you don’t like to, then there really isn’t gonna be anything here. Especially after being w someone who wouldn’t tag along on my adventures for many years. The little things I’ve overlooked in terms of compatibility have always come to the forefront years later.
I don’t mind. Met a lady once who hadn’t travelled much apart from in and around UK. She put she likes travel on her profile.
I would’ve liked to have had the opportunity to date her because she was honest about her travel experiences.
Not everyone’s travel experience has to involve lots of different countries. I would’ve liked to show her other countries. Those women are rare and genuine, in my opinion.
Yes. i don’t see a problem with it. They want to see the world. if they can afford it and yall can afford it🤷🏾♂️
My now wife and I met on tinder and took our first international trip within 6 months of meeting. I love traveling.
It’s pretty common. A lot of my male friends have the money to but don’t. So I totally understand
Plus there are “Vacation people” and “travel people”. If the wrong type get together one will be dragging the other along. The people who want to go to Cancun and sit on a beach, or Disney every year should not be with people who want to backpack Vietnam.
it’s an easy but suboptimal way to filter for men who are boring, shut-in, or otherwise have no life experience outside of their hometown. it’s not an unreasonable preference, and i also think that it’s a simple conversation to have.
I’m married so I’m not on apps now but I think that it’s valid for someone who likes traveling to make sure that a potential partner likes to travel as well.
I don’t think there’s *that* much you can read into it because it *could* mean a bunch of different things.
Openness to experience is one of the big five personality traits, and I think it is important for partners to be compatible on that dimension.
While I didn’t put it front-and-center in my dating profile back in the day, my wife wouldn’t be my wife if we didn’t share a similar desire to see the world. Early in our relationship we talked about the places we’d been and the places we dream of going, our ideal vacations etc. It was important to me that her idea of a good time included driving a campervan around the ring road in Iceland, camping in national parks, going to spectacular places as cheaply as possible, etc – not just parking our butts at a luxury resort somewhere or visiting first world cities or spending precious PTO sitting at home.
On the other hand, I’ve seen enough such profiles to know that there’s a whiff of unstated classism in some of the profiles you’re alluding to. They’re filtering for people who can afford plane tickets and spending time in foreign countries. Even “low cost” travel (backpacking, hostels, etc) is only accessible to people with a fair bit of privilege. So a cynical read is they’re saying “looking for someone with money”.
Also a lot of people do use it as a substitute for any sort of hobbies or other ambitions. “I like to travel” could easily mean “I had a good time on a family trip to Europe years ago and I’m bringing it up because I have nothing else exciting in my life” not “I organize my life around it”. It could easily mean they’re a rather boring person.
So basically I think it’s a legitimate thing to express and seek out in a partner, but there are some related attitudes to look out for that would act as red flags.
When I was dating, I would put things like “I like to travel” in the summary. I was never obnoxious about it, like some of the phrases I’ve seen floating around here. To a certain degree, I agree that everyone likes to travel.
After meeting my partner (not on an app), I’ve learned that some people really don’t like to travel. I’m fine with going to Guatemala and staying in a hostel or just driving and car or tent camping. My partner is very selective on where to travel and where to stay.
So, I thinking mentioning it is valuable if you care about it but I also think a blanket statement doesn’t help narrow down the type of travel you specifically like.
Eh, men have that in their profiles a lot too
I have no clue what you are talking about. Most people like traveling regardless of gender. My fondest memories are often vacations across the world.
I feel like that is a fairly reasonable thing to care about in a relationship. Traveling is one of those activities that you need your SO to be into or you aren’t going to be able to do it. Like it would be weird if you’re girlfriend/wife had an issue with you spending a few hours at a friends house playing poker on a weekly basis if they aren’t into it, but most people aren’t going to be onboard with you backpacking around Europe/Asia/South America while they stay at home, and even if they were, you’d probably prefer to share those experiences with them.
On top of that being into travel and adventure tends to say some semi important things about your everyday life as well. People who like to travel tend to be more open to experience which means they’re more likely to want to try new things closer to home as well vs preferring the well known and routine.
I mean this is true off of apps too. I think it’s a way of saying that they love to get out in the world and seek experiences, make things happen – and they want someone who will take an active role in that. Which, honestly? Same.
Count me in ( as a male) loves to travel, need woman that loves same! I have money but prefer to stay free in my camper in Baja while I surf, or hostels in Morroco etc or low end hotels while travelling , so yes money no issue but high end hotels are not my tribe. Does money attract honey, yes and no, its a bonus and if they have zero money its not my honey.
This depends on what people want with their lives and how they can afford to spend their time.
Lots of people enjoy travelling. There’s a reason tourism keeps so many places in the world afloat. I don’t really think you can say they’re ’over emphasizing’ it unless you know them and that they don’t actually care about travel, or if you have some objective, universal understanding of travel being pointless?
Travel has been essential for my life experience but that doesn’t mean travel is the only way for someone to enjoy life.
It’s also (to a degree) a class indicator. People who actively travel (I’d say 1+ times a year, on planes) can’t be poor (or they’re in massive debt) but people who travel yearly aren’t like super rich either. Cheap flights are everywhere if people are hunting deals.
Basically: if it’s not important to you, and they say it’s important to them, just move on. They aren’t for you.
I mean I love traveling too, and would love to find someone with that interest. I don’t think it’s something to get worked up over.
A dating app at its best helps people find dating partners with similar interests.
Someone saying they love to travel or that they enjoy adventures doesn’t have any deeper meaning outside of “I want to find a partner who also likes to do things I do.”
It’s a filter, that’s it. This questions seems aimed at saying a big group of women are using it as a back door way to say “pay for me”, and quite frankly if that’s what you’re taking from it I do not believe you will be successful on dating apps.
You will meet weird people, and selfish people, and people you don’t click with. That’s dating, with or without an app.