I struggle heavily feeling connected with people. People wave to me, people enjoy my presence, but no one craves me the way I crave them. If I walk by I have to initiate often to be there, if i want to hang out I need to initiate. I feel in the back of my mind I am tolerated but not loved. People see me as safe to vent to but not for me to be friends with, and its rare someone texts me first. What am I doing wrong? How do I find people where I want to be around them but they also want to be around me enough to reach out or offer a reschedule date, because it seems its either one or the other.
This past week its been very challenging on me, feeling like its just over and the bonds I desire will never happen, or if they do it will be so far down the line that I just will not even be able to be myself at that point. I just feel so awful that this chapter of my life is closing and I wasn't able to be happy or find my people when I tried so so so hard.
Is it some sort of social skill issue that is preventing me from actually being within my friends inner circle, and just keeping me on the periphery/not remembered if im not there?
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It could be many things. However, the most important thing is that you’re comfortable with yourself. Also, are you comfortable enough to find things that you might want to do even if you’ve never tried them before? The people who call you to vent may not necessarily be the same people you hang out with to enjoy yourself. If you’re okay going it alone you can find activity friends you can create bonds with in a different manner. The shared thing you do with them can do that. I always encourage people to not wait on others to enjoy life.
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