i have been one to sleep around a bit, not insanely, but with enough men that i am starting to recognize a pattern. i constantly hear “you give the best head” and things of that nature, but i don’t know if i believe them. part of me feels like, because it is usually the same things that they are commenting on, that maybe it is true and i am just good at giving head. the other part of me is like these men are just saying that because just want me to meet up with them when i haven’t been. so i guess my question is this, do you rave about a woman’s abilities to said women you have been with to then gain more sex, or because you are genuinely expressing that someone is giving you “the best you have ever had”?
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I would tell you the truth, but I’m on the spectrum and I will be honest when I probably shouldn’t.
Does this guy exaggerate about other things? That’s your answer.
Is there a reason why it couldn’t be both ?
Why wouldnt anyone? No more than a women saying that her husbands massages are the best when in reality she’s had a professional do a better job. And more to the point, you’re probably really good at blowies and past partners are letting you know.
Take the compliment you’ve earned.
Nah it’s a genuine compliment. Take it and be proud.
Every chance it’s true but even if not it’s definitely a compliment so no point overthinking this. And obviously if a guy has enjoyed your skills he’s going to want to again – there’s no hidden agenda here 🤣.
I think women are the ones more likely to give the “You are the best I have ever had” and similar comments — because they know how fragile a lot of men are. The ego of most men can be easily damaged when it comes to sex, especially with someone they want to have an actual relationship with.
Yes they absolutely do. They want you to feel good so you become more confident and will want to do it more. But just cause they may be exaggerating doesn’t mean they think it’s bad.
Another goodie “I never cum from head before”. Blows in 5 minutes. Girl then thinks she’s a rockstar for being the “first” to make him cum. He was fully lying of course so she’d try harder.
Yes, of course. Compliments get you feeling good about yourself and you’ll give more to the person saying it. Haven’t you told a guy that he’s the best lover ever and he will fuck you better? We all do it. It’s not just men.
Wow, you’re so pretty tonight, you look awesome in that dress. It makes you feel special and wanted. You’re will to do more with him. It’s all part of the game.
I’ve only ever had one relationship, namely my wife. I make it a point to thank her for any amount of sexual attention she gives me or allows me to give to her. I enjoy giving and receiving sexual pleasure, so I show gratitude to her by thanking her for said pleasure I received/she allowed me to give and I also show her my appreciation by giving her more of the things she wants. Nonsexual touch. Chores around the house. Favors. Etc. She has the same attitude with me which is why she is so generous with her body.
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Game respects game. Just want you to know you did a good job and I appreciate the skills.
You mean positive reinforcement?
Not really, it’s just a compliment, I remember the first partner I had who clenched her muscles on the down stroke, it was a surprising experience, and my first partner with actual experience, unfortunately most women lay down and simply submit
Like with anything…. Praise the behavior you want to sustain.
Just so we’re clear, women have been saying men are bad at taking hints for my entire lifetime(and I’m sure longer).
But here we have a case where multiple guys have told you that you’re the best they’ve ever had at giving head, and instead of jumping to the obvious conclusion that you do, in fact, give good head you hop on reddit to try to loup hole it and see if there’s some grand blowjob conspiracy.
You literally took a poll, found a considerable number of participants voting the same way and refuse to accept the vote lol.
Any partner complimenting somethin you did is obviously would like you to do it again, doesn’t mean it’s some game they’re playing
I’m sure some men probably do this, yes.
But, based on your write up, no one has ever been “caught” lying to you so I’m not sure why you are hearing good feedback and immediately jumping to “are they lying to me?” Do you have trust issues in general, or just about this? You say “I don’t believe them” without giving any reason for not believing them. That might be something to examine, possibly with the help of a therapist – why are you so reluctant to accept praise?
Bottom line is if they DIDN’T think you were any good at it they wouldn’t want more of it.