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  1. So question me and my girlfriend have been together for 4 years now we been through alot of stuff in that time frame with me being in the military and away training let me start of by saying my girlfriend is extremely loyal,loving, and has more or less always had my back but has also put in some really bad situations as well 2 years we had a son who passed away I got out of the military too take care of my family and be with him in his final moments he passed away at the end of 2024 fast forward 2 months me and my girlfriend are living togather for the first time this is also the first time I have ever lived together with anyone romantically me and her argue alot to the point were we could not be together in the same room and police had to meditate between us this was in April of 2025 me and her made a decision to still be together but live separately and have been for over a year now the past year has been great for me I really enjoy having my own place and my own space this last week she asked me to move in together with her to help her with the bills because she has been struggling financially and I told her that I really didn’t want to because of how things ended before between us leaving together I just don’t want constantly be arguing and feel like im walking on egg shells in my own house she got upset when I told her this im just tired of all the arguing and I don’t want a repeat of what happened a year but I don’t if that was because of what we went through with our son or if thats how things just naturally are im just being paranoid or im I right for not wanting to move in

  2. I (23M) was talking to a girl on social media. She asked me how old I thought she was and I guessed 20. She said she was 19 so I said “I mean that’s not a problem for me but like if you’re uncomfortable I’m older lmk.” She then responded “I’m actually 22. Talking to a 19 year old is not normal.” Insinuating I was a predator for talking to a teenager and proceeded to tell me off. Like I don’t purposefully pursue someone that young but if they match everything else I am looking for is that a problem? Is that too weird of an age gap? Just kinda a crazy thing from sliding into a dm lol.

  3. As someone who thought he was way too ugly to date my entire life, I’m honestly surprised at my success on dating apps, having just started using the apps 2 months ago at age 30.

    That said, it has been exhausting managing so many conversations and responding. I tend to try to respond at least twice a day so people don’t feel as though I’m disinterested but, I have 11 active conversations currently –> 3 of which I have had dates on but we still communicate in between dates. The rest are all in the date planning phase and I default assume I’ll cover the bill since I usually suggest the place so, it’s not cheap. I think they’re all interesting people and honestly I could see myself with all of them. My “standards” are also really low and perhaps I need to be pickier and just cut things off with some of these conversations for my own sanity. I just never was a picky person since I was pretty ugly/socially isolated. I’m not even sure how to cut people off given everyone has their own uniqueness/beauty/personality.

    That’s my vent.

  4. Signs a man only wants a girlfriend – any girlfriend – and isn’t curious about you?

    so this man wanted to meet – we live two hours apart in different cities – I decided to go there, but when I told him he just said – oh, good – then left the conversation for two hours to talk to a friend of his

    Then the next night after work ( it was late and I was tired) we had a video call and I thought we’d discuss our plans to meet up – this would involve me finding accommodatuon and everything – but he just started talking about his uncle’s vegetable garden – listing all the vegetbles – even though I don’t even have a vegetable garden and didn’t ask about it ( and even though he had told me the same story the day before)

    He didn’t try to get to know me better or make plans or just share excitement about meeting up – like he was talking ‘at’ me, not ‘to’ me – yet he was the one who had been pressurising me for a meeting

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