I’m honestly so confused why I’m so hung up on this person. I think it may be because he was the closest to my ideal type in terms of looks, personality and values but god damn he already matched someone else and moved on and I’m hung up on him clearly it wasn’t mutual but it’s just me left feeling this way.


4 comments

  1. It will get easier

    He might have been perfect for you but if you weren’t perfect for him then is that even a relationship you’d want?

    I just got the goodbye from my ideal woman and as much as I was ready to go all in for her, I wouldn’t want to be in a one sided relationship 🤷🏻‍♂️

    So the closure is a good thing

    It’s definitely better to part ways than to prolong a thing that doesn’t have a good basis.

    I still think: damn, I missed an opportunity…

    But then I remind myself: I was radically honest, and she made a judgment call— the end 🤷🏻‍♂️

    Hopefully you can move on easily because you don’t deserve to hurt over something like that, it’s just a matter of compatibility

  2. It’s probably because you built him up in your head, based on assumptions and projections based on his looks and the little tiny scraps of information about his personality that you could glean. Being self aware of when you’re creating stories about people you don’t know yet can be really helpful to prevent getting attached to an imaginary person or getting attached prematurely.

  3. He may have checked a lot of your boxes but the most important box that needs to be checked is that he’s really into you. I hate it here 🙁

  4. Okay so mainly my psychiatrist told me this today cuz i m in a similar situation (I ve known him for 5 months and w kinda dated but its messy) .
    For the first period when u re “loving someone ” all ur happy happy hormones are UP (serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin) this case is similar to how an OCD person feels all the time. So basically being in love is a mental illness till the first period (generally 18 months pass then it gets complicated) anyhow what i wanted to say is you have no control on this its how brains work u being hang up on him and all .
    What I m personally doing is keeping myself busy af ,good luck OP

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