I get really anxious around stupid and oblivious people. I sometimes get jealous that these people use their weaponised incompetence to get all their work done. Somehow, the one who is responsible around them is always me and I have suffered a lot lately because of such people (they are my parents). They have advise for everything but I have never seen them take action against their own stupidity.
Plus whenever thry spot me on a good mood, they will either handover a job or try to demean me.
How to deal with such people?
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I get really anxious around stupid and oblivious people. I sometimes get jealous that these people use their weaponised incompetence to get all their work done. Somehow, the one who is responsible around them is always me and I have suffered a lot lately because of such people (they are my parents). They have advise for everything but I have never seen them take action against their own stupidity.
Plus whenever thry spot me on a good mood, they will either handover a job or try to demean me.
How to deal with such people?
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You’re a grown man. If you’re tired of doing your parents’ work for them, quit doing it.
Anxiety is just a state of mind. Just choose not to feel anxious and you shall not be anxious.
I take pills
I had an epiphany one day where I realized it’s a tailwind not a head wind.
When you have already thought of every way something can go wrong, who can go wrong, where you can go wrong.
So when it becomes time to act it means you are never surprised, or rarely, and you know there is a thousand ways that could have sucked harder.
When it comes time to perform under pressure and make decisions, after a lot of work, it almost becomes a flow state. Your gut already knows which of the outcomes is the way forward. Decisions become a compass because you know in your soul, plans are a joke. So you just keep deciding north.
Anxiety rocks.
Rule it. Love it. Use it.
Maybe put some distance between you and them. Go live your life. Move.
You called them stupid and oblivious but then claim they are using weaponized incompetence. Its not weaponized. They are just incompetent.
The way I deal with anxiety is a moderate amount of narcissism. Ive worked pretty hard on myself in a lot of areas and truly believe im better than most people. Easier to not be anxious when you dont care about the opinions of most people around you.