What is wrong with just wanting romance and wanting to spend time with someone you like instead of just texting all the time or going two weeks without seeing each other? Why is it clingy for wanting to genuinely build a relationship instead of constantly living in a state of “let’s see where it goes” “I don’t know how I feel yet” “I don’t know them yet” “impress me”.
Why do people say I am clingy just because I want to have some romance and to actually see and touch the person I like? I know there is a line where it can be too much where if you abandon your own life and want to see them 24/7, but jeez why can’t people just be excited about each other anymore? “I met this person I liked and I’m motivated and intentional about finding a partner, and I felt really good with them, so I want to see them again two days from now when I’m free, and make plans for next weekend, and you know what I have a long lunch tomorrow and seeing them for 10 minutes would be really nice”.
Why do we have to be all cold and distant and slow moving instead of just leaning into feelings and just have some god damned romance without seeming “clingy”????
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I’m tired of the word “confident”
Well a part of this comes from boundaries. If the other party has certain things they expect from a partner they will make it so that it doesn’t inhibit them from living the way they prefer. I.e. maybe they like their alone time, or they have some ambitions and goals that would require more time and effort on their part. It would be helpful for you (and everyone in a relationship) to discuss these things beforehand and even during the course of the relationship.
Well I think for some people it also depends on how long you’ve known them. If this person is already in an exclusive relationship with you and yall are comfortable with each other I don’t think it’s clingy. But if yall have been talking for a couple of days and you’re constantly asking to see them in person that’s a different story these days.
It’s very simply really.
Clingy is the female version of creepy.
Some guys can be genuinely creepy, but basically any guy who is deemed unattractive gets that label.
Same with clingy.
I don’t know if you know this but it’s been going on for a long time to put a negative condonation to something that’s nice or good. Yes, I’m aware there’s actual clingy people but I’ve seen it used incorrectly more often than not.
Kinda like how people who were labeled nerds cause they actually wanted to do good in school. It used to be considered cool to actually want to fail school.