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A few days ago I made a post about what I thought was a cringe, intended to be slightly humorous message I sent to a match after she agreed to go on a date. Think it worked out well, she responded continuing to play on the concept. Set up the date last night and made another joking comment and she must have liked it because she kept playing off it throughout the convo and we exchanged some funny banter.
Really excited for the date Friday and it’s put me at ease a bit that she seems lighthearted and funny, and our sense of humor seems to align. She’s also beautiful, 100% my type, successful, and child free. Really hope I don’t blow it somehow, and trying not to get in my head about her being out of my league.
Genuinely how do you trust people after being cheated on? My instant reaction is to not believe anything this person tells me because lying is SO easy and selfishness is rampant.
I posted in yesterday’s thread about when to ask people on a first date.
Well I took everyone’s advice and now I have date on Saturday! So thank you all for giving me the push I needed to just ask someone out sooner rather than later!
I really like this woman, but all I can do is keep it to myself and hope I get to see her every once in a while.
I thought I was too old for all this lol. But I can’t help but like her. I thought I had the whole ‘moving on’ thing down by now. I wish I knew what was makes it different with her.
Debating whether to message last Sunday’s date tonight. I feel like it didn’t go well, but she did say let’s keep in touch, and said she had a great time meeting me too when I texted. Hasn’t unmatched. But I also think she is maybe just being nice and hoping it fades. Felt like the conversation didn’t flow well and our communication styles kind of clashed, but also I’m drawn to her and would like to do a second date to see if things improve. I feel like the date mostly didn’t go well because I wasn’t relaxed and less about her.
A few weeks ago a friend introduced me to a friend of a friend. Long story short we exchanged numbers and I tried to set up a date that weekend but she said she was busy until May 11th next week. I agreed that I would text her after May 11th when her finals are done, and nothing else has been said. I know I have nothing to lose, but would you text her back in this situation next week? On the one hand I feel like interest and momentum may have faded by now on her end, but on the other hand what do I have to lose if I just ask?
Asked my longtime crush out for a coffee today. He soft-rejected me. “Let’s meet next time”
(Mid 30s F) A guy asked me out irl and went on a first date two months ago. It wasn’t fun for me for several reasons and asked me to go to another place(prob his) at the end of it which I declined. I told him I wasn’t interested in going out again. He has been calling me once in a while since and I didn’t pick up and this week he lost it calling me asking to f*** and texting me racist things.
We had one date!! Less than an hour. Honestly glad I trusted myself and dodged a bullet but also makes me sad, scared and lose what very little hope I had for dating.
Nothing ain’t happening for me in the dating department. Online Dating is quiet & dry. Kinda sucks!
Officially bf/gf as of this last weekend 🥰🥰 Kind of fast (about a month), but we vibe really well and I’m excited!
I have a friend 36F who claims she falls in love fast. She’s been dating this 30M for a month and a half and swears she loves him.
About a week ago, he hit her with that “I realize I’ve been neglecting myself and need to focus on me rn” vague ass text with no indication on when he’s going to get back in contact with her, lol. She replied with an “I’m here for you and I got you back text and etc.”
She’s been losing her mind about this and is super sad over them and trying not to double text them. Now she’s saying that maybe he needed some space because he secretly fell in love with her too but is too scared to tell her even though she’d say I love you back or that he’s embarrassed because he got an std (he’s promiscuous) which is a huge red flag in my opinion.
It’s kind of ironic to me because back in the day I tried to date her and she pulled the “I need to focus on my mental health card” and I replied with the sappy “I’m here if you need anything and got your back text” LOL.
2 tentative dates this weekend after a couple of months on the shelf. Not really excited for either one, nothing against the guys, just still not totally over the guy I was seeing for 2 months who then just suddenly wasn’t ready to start a relationship…but I’ve accepted it is the way it is and I’m not going to let a 2 month non-relationship keep me down for long. I’m not in a hurry, but I don’t have the time to be passive about dating either so it’s time to get back on the horse. I just really liked him and nothing was “wrong” (except the lack of commitment, which obviously is a non-starter) so I’m still frustrated at the whole buildup to nothing. I don’t really want to date anybody else, but the person I want to date won’t commit, so here we are. I’m going to try to adjust my attitude and show up open to the experiences.