Pretty much just title. Feels like a rare opportunity, but don't know what to do other than go on some walks and play video games or something. Play a lot of piano, but not "fill 3 days" amounts of it. I'm like 8 months sober at this point, so my previous go-to is out. Figured there's probably no better group to ask

Something important that I left out – all you really have is yourself in this situation. Recently moved to a tiny town for a work placement. Tiny like…tiny. No bars, no restaurants, no uber, no pizza, no nothing. Pretty much nothing to work with other than yourself and that dollar general

Final tweak – this wasn't intended to be about whether or not my wife is evil or I'm a slouch due to my being home alone without a car. We agreed on this arrangement, I like being home alone, we have one car which works fine 99% of the time and allows us to put more toward loans early. It's all good, guys


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  1. Here’s an original copy of /u/Clear_Channel_2090’s post (if available):

    Pretty much just title. Feels like a rare opportunity, but don’t know what to do other than go on some walks and play video games or something. I’m like 8 months sober at this point, so my previous go-to is out. Figured there’s probably no better group to ask

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  2. First of all, I am not married, never been, no kids, so the real question is what would I do with a wife and a car, lol.

  4. Do you have a hobby you want to get into that she’s not super jazzed about? Learn to play guitar or something 

    Or learn something, like start to learn a new language 

  5. That was me last week.  My car took a shit the first day of my “break”.  I went hiking and played Starfield a lot.

  6. Play video games and eat exclusively ramen noodles, my brother! Go for walks in the evening, maybe listen to a good podcast (I really like Behind the Bastards!), and just let the solace in. Be sure to text your wife that you love her in the mornings!

    But those are just my suggestions. You do you!

  7. Personally, whenever I get the house to myself I like to really crank the shit out of my stereo and listen to some stuff… then maybe order a pizza and put on some kinda movie the wife would normally hate.

  11. Depends what you call walking distance. Personally I would just walk further and then the next place you come to will always be walking distance.

  12. I dunno, downloading sketchup to design some furniture or a dream gaming setup.

    or download the show silo, i love that show, hope season 3 will come soonish

  13. What’s wrong with video games and door dash?

    Have a mate over?

    Do a project?

    Smoke some weed…

    Wank on the sofa in the middle of the day.

    Plan a nice dinner for when she returns. – order the groceries in if you can’t get to shop in under an hour walk/short uber.

  15. Walk down to the dollar store to get cheap snacks; go home and play Helldivers 2 until she comes home! 

  16. When I’m home alone for a few days, which is not too often, my favorite ritual is:

    Wake up early, make some nice pour-over coffee, smoke a small bowl, throw on some records on the HiFi system, and proceed to *clean the entire fucking house*.

    When I’m exhausted and feel proud of the relaxing environment I’ve created, later that afternoon I’ll make myself a simple steak dinner. If I’m up for it and have the time, I’ll trip on mushrooms and listen to more music (since the set and setting is already taken care of and I’m usually in a great mood by this point).

  22. Catch up on some home maintenance if you’re handy. Trim hedges and cut the grass if you’re that way inclined. Do some cable organisation. Read a book. Watch some movies. Take long walks. Spend some time in your own company too where you’re doing nothing but being.

  24. First day always kicks ass, you should let that organically play out.

    2nd and 3rd day will need some structure. Definitely give the place a clean. Do something that your wife will appreciate when she gets back. Maybe have a nice meal prepped.

    Watch movies, of course.

    Listen to music.

    I fill my time with guitar, but I’m sure you have something.

    Exercise. Go for a run.

    Walk without music.

    Do an internet deep dive.

    Read a book.

  25. There’s a story about an Argentinian that yerked it 84 times in a 24 hour period. I guess what I’m saying is set a goal. Aim for a personal best at something and go at it! Nothing is in your way.

  27. While all the suggestions so far are great, I think it would do the relationship a huge boost to look around the place and clean it, fix things from the honey-do list, and make sure it is tidier than when she left. Essentially do something surprising without being asked and without showing you are a man-child.

    From one long time married dude to another
    Younger dude.

  28. On the rare occasions I get the house to myself, I make a day of it. I’m up early: coffee, breakfast tacos with bacon, the whole deal. Then I fire up the hi-fi stereo and clean the absolute hell out of the house. Like, “you could perform open-heart surgery in the kitchen” clean.

    After that, it’s a guilt-free afternoon of video games or binge-watching stuff my wife can’t stand. I usually just snack through lunch so I can go big at dinner. A thick ribeye or maybe a solid chopped cheese.

    Wrap it up by calling the wife to tell her I love her, popping a gummy, and falling asleep to Star Trek: The Next Generation.

    …probably gonna jerk it at least thrice throughout the day too. With the sound on for a change.

  29. I deep cleaned my closet this weekend. We’ve lived here for almost 25 years, and some stuff accumulated deep in the recesses of the closet. Could be a good time to put on some upbeat music, go through all your clothes, shoes, jackets, and weed away.

    While taking breaks to play Satiafactory on my Xbox, of course.

  31. *”a tiny town for a work placement. Tiny like…tiny. No bars, no restaurants, no uber, no pizza, no nothing.”*  Can you expand on this?   I find it hard to believe.  Or maybe I have a different definition of “town”.

  32. Depends… Where are you?

    Congrats on the sobriety. I’m proud of you. Hope you are proud of you. Legend.

    Personally… I’m not staying home. I’d go do whatever you normally do for fun outside of the house, but with alternate transportation – bike, scooter, hoof it, hitch. I’m finding whatever semblance of downtown there is, even if it is one block, and rotating through the businesses for a couple days until I become mayor. I’m also an extreme extrovert. I’ll get my haircut twice just to hang out in the barbershop an extra time.

    Listen to Double Dutch Bus by Frankie Smith, or Downtown by Macklemore for inspo.

    And if I’m anywhere with worthwhile scenery, just grab my pack and start hiking

  33. Maybe develop your female alter ego using your wifes stuff and just wander around town in full drag

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