I see a lot of posts from women on different subs feeling insecure i their 30/40/50s etc about signs of aging
But as a male do you feel women are complementary or even think it's sexy as we show signs of age?
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I have received compliments for the little amounts of grey that have been showing up in my hair.
I feel like this should be posted in an ask women sub, not an ask men sub.
But regarding the first sentence, a lot of women feel insecure about aging due to the way men act about women aging. I am a woman myself, I mostly lurk on this site for advice, sometimes I ask questions here.
But when I was 18 once a 40 year old man tried to hit on me. I turned him down because he was far too old for me, obviously. When I tried to tell him that I’m not looking for a guy 20+ years older than me, he started talking about how 18 is “women’s prime” and how 40’s are “men’s prime.”
Told me that once I’m old enough to date “prime men” then they won’t want me anymore. Dude was a creep.
I find a lot of this age “prime” debate to be creepy, actually. Most of it is just men excusing preying on younger women.
It’s a known thing that society as a whole, is kinder to aging men than they are towards women.
I’ve had girls absolutely fawn over my graying hair in my late twenties.
I guess it depends on which signs. Completely letting yourself go in your mid fourties will hardly lead to compliments 😅
when i was 45 i was on a first date w some gal making plans to see each other again and i mentioned i’d be free after x pm tomorrow and she was like uh why do you have a lunch date with another woman? and i was like “uh yeah a haircut date w my gay barber…”
and she jumped out of her chair and grabbed the sides of head and said “no don’t cut it! you can’t get rid of that silver fox thing you got going on!” 🤣
it was the first time anyone had called me that (at least to my face). after i was done being confused (because in my head i still think i’m 22) i’ll admit i kinda liked it 🙂
I got way more attention after 40 from women than before
I don’t know about specific tells of age, but I am absolutely noticing a lot more people checking me out at 38/39 than previously. I have graying hair and definitely look my age. I’ve also kind of recently been working on my appearance though, growing out my hair and keeping my beard a bit more shaped, and actually considering what I wear. So it could be that.
But definitely grey beard / hair and wrinkles are not a hindrance.
Also absolutely love the little crows feet on my wife, and on other women as well. I think ageing can be extremely attractive on women.
All I can tell you is that after 35 the attention pretty much dried up.
Being young and pretty is attractive to both women and men and it’s really not surprising. Just look at Kpop stars.
But some people age better than others and can look good well into heir 40s.
Not really. Not anymore (it was more pronounced 25 years ago). I think it is more about signs of maturity, personality traits. But it is all just bs anyway, because people don’t really know what they want so when you get together they start to idealize some little bits that they find peculiar about you. Grey hair that people mention here isn’t even a sign of aging really, some start to get it in their twenties.
My boyfriend has the faintest crows feet. I find them charming tbh. But he is a bit younger than I am, i’ve never liked older men, since I was a teen to now, i generally don’t 🤷🏻♀️ so it may just be the love guys or some signs like being smiley person and having crows feet.
I get far, far more attention now that I’m past 40. It’s not even close.
I think so.
Grey hair and a grey beard have significantly increased the compliments I get, mostly from my wife but occasionally others too.
An older man is typically more comfortable in his own skin, has learned to play to his strengths, and probably has a heavier bank account than he did half his age ago. The confidence, experience, and calm that comes with getting older (getting *better* if you play it right) absolutely comes into play with women too.
greying hair – yes, definitely.
Growing up, and acting more mature – definitely.
Letting yourself go – no.
getting stubborn and inflexible – no.
I honestly have a lot more game, but that could also be because of my laissez faire attitude nowadays.
I get told that my graying temples make me look distinguished, but I’m pretty sure they’re just trying to be nice. They can’t actually think that.
My wife loves the sounds I make when I bend over to pick toys up off the floor
I’m balding with middle aged spread and the incessant need to clear my throat.
I’ll level with you, I’m not fighting them off with a shitty stick.
Honestly the bar is set very low for guys. Be in decent shape. Groom yourself. Wear clean, nice fitting clothes.
So many guys at 40+ just seem to give up on doing the bare minimum.
Attractive is attractive. I think a big part of older men being found attractive is the confidence element. Most people run out of “GAF what strangers think” energy in their 40s which translates into confidence.
I do better with women at the age of 46 than I did at 26.
The salt and pepper in my hair and beard seems to be appreciated.
The beer gut, not so much.
Yes.
When we were younger, my wife received much more attention from both men and women, wheras now, I am the one getting more compliments from both men and women. We both look good for our age.
I don’t particularly like the attention from younger women, it makes me uncomfortable. But from women my own age, its gold.
I think women value “youthfulness” less so than actual attractive features.
In other words women find George Clooney hot with gray hair but he was likely very handsome at 25.
It’s not like an ugly 25 yo man is suddenly going to hot when he has wrinkles and gray hair in 15 years.
As a rule, we consciously or subconsciously associate a man of a certain age with success in life, a comfortable lifestyle, reliability, and, at the very least, independence. For many women – especially younger ones – this sparks additional interest. That’s normal.
Attention sure but if you approach you will get the vibes real quick.
I feel like a lot of younger women nowadays have daddy issues. Plus a lot of them grew up in homes with leering step dads and step siblings there’s a reason that spicy content is a popular fetish. Proximity to older non related men in the home during formative years can cause “issues”.
Not to mention older men are presumed to have more resources than younger men. It’s very transactional nowadays. Always has been but nowadays it’s ruthless.
Ask women.
Mature women like security and maturity in their target partners. That happens as you age generally, for both sexes. Immature women like security and excitement, in that order, if you’re financially secure you’ll be successful at every stage of life, with women of some kind. Immature men like Immature women, both of those types of people are widely available at all stages of life. Every once in a while a woman just wants a hard deep dicking, and a dude just wants some strange, regardless of stage in your life cycle.
So, in general, yes some women like aging men.
Insecure women worry about signs of aging because all they have to offer a partner are their bodies, and they’re recognizing that. Mature, secure women don’t have this problem as they contribute far more to partnership then that.
there was a ‘just for men’ commercial a few years back that was meant to cover grey hair, but to leave a bit…
the slogan: “I want to look like i know what im doing, and can still do it”
I’ve seen guys ask this same type of question about getting married, “do you get hit on more after getting married?”. For me the answer is no, I didn’t get hit on before getting married, I don’t get hit on after, I didn’t get hit on when I was younger and I’m not getting hit on more as I’m getting older.
It’s not that they like signs of aging, it’s that their attitudes change after getting burned.
A lot of women spend their 20s chasing a class of guys they didn’t realize would never marry them.
Then one day they realize it and suddenly girls who laughed at you when you were 21 are suddenly interested in you when you’re 41.
You have more money, wear better clothes, know how to be a gentleman, have enough life experience to hold a conversation, better car.
Confidence beats all. If you’re obviously insecure about your hair loss, it’ll show. If you shave it off and own the gray beard, your confidence will be attractive.
My ex wanted me to get a hair transplant. My new lady loves my bald head and is enjoying watching my beard go gray.
Personally, I feel women appreciate that I’m not trying to appear younger than I am.
Of course, my shoulder cat draws a lot of attention, but I often also feel that women use Klook’s presence to approach me.
When I was younger and my appearance unobtrusive, women never initiated flirting, but since my eye was damaged and needed an eyepatch, I ‘retired on disability’ and don’t need to stay in the background anymore. I grew out my facial hair and dress how I like and women started coming over to chat.
And that was before Klook became my shoulder cat. I get regular compliments (mainly from much younger women) on my ‘style’ and appearance. They’re less obviously flirty than men, but rather ask for my [IG](https://www.instagram.com/amsterdamassassin/) to send me the photos they took.
Chicks dig my old man grunt when I stand and the ginger first few steps as I get underway
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I have received compliments for the little amounts of grey that have been showing up in my hair.
I feel like this should be posted in an ask women sub, not an ask men sub.
But regarding the first sentence, a lot of women feel insecure about aging due to the way men act about women aging. I am a woman myself, I mostly lurk on this site for advice, sometimes I ask questions here.
But when I was 18 once a 40 year old man tried to hit on me. I turned him down because he was far too old for me, obviously. When I tried to tell him that I’m not looking for a guy 20+ years older than me, he started talking about how 18 is “women’s prime” and how 40’s are “men’s prime.”
Told me that once I’m old enough to date “prime men” then they won’t want me anymore. Dude was a creep.
I find a lot of this age “prime” debate to be creepy, actually. Most of it is just men excusing preying on younger women.
It’s a known thing that society as a whole, is kinder to aging men than they are towards women.
I’ve had girls absolutely fawn over my graying hair in my late twenties.
I guess it depends on which signs. Completely letting yourself go in your mid fourties will hardly lead to compliments 😅
when i was 45 i was on a first date w some gal making plans to see each other again and i mentioned i’d be free after x pm tomorrow and she was like uh why do you have a lunch date with another woman? and i was like “uh yeah a haircut date w my gay barber…”
and she jumped out of her chair and grabbed the sides of head and said “no don’t cut it! you can’t get rid of that silver fox thing you got going on!” 🤣
it was the first time anyone had called me that (at least to my face). after i was done being confused (because in my head i still think i’m 22) i’ll admit i kinda liked it 🙂
I got way more attention after 40 from women than before
I don’t know about specific tells of age, but I am absolutely noticing a lot more people checking me out at 38/39 than previously. I have graying hair and definitely look my age. I’ve also kind of recently been working on my appearance though, growing out my hair and keeping my beard a bit more shaped, and actually considering what I wear. So it could be that.
But definitely grey beard / hair and wrinkles are not a hindrance.
Also absolutely love the little crows feet on my wife, and on other women as well. I think ageing can be extremely attractive on women.
All I can tell you is that after 35 the attention pretty much dried up.
Being young and pretty is attractive to both women and men and it’s really not surprising. Just look at Kpop stars.
But some people age better than others and can look good well into heir 40s.
Not really. Not anymore (it was more pronounced 25 years ago). I think it is more about signs of maturity, personality traits. But it is all just bs anyway, because people don’t really know what they want so when you get together they start to idealize some little bits that they find peculiar about you. Grey hair that people mention here isn’t even a sign of aging really, some start to get it in their twenties.
My boyfriend has the faintest crows feet. I find them charming tbh. But he is a bit younger than I am, i’ve never liked older men, since I was a teen to now, i generally don’t 🤷🏻♀️ so it may just be the love guys or some signs like being smiley person and having crows feet.
I get far, far more attention now that I’m past 40. It’s not even close.
I think so.
Grey hair and a grey beard have significantly increased the compliments I get, mostly from my wife but occasionally others too.
An older man is typically more comfortable in his own skin, has learned to play to his strengths, and probably has a heavier bank account than he did half his age ago. The confidence, experience, and calm that comes with getting older (getting *better* if you play it right) absolutely comes into play with women too.
greying hair – yes, definitely.
Growing up, and acting more mature – definitely.
Letting yourself go – no.
getting stubborn and inflexible – no.
I honestly have a lot more game, but that could also be because of my laissez faire attitude nowadays.
I get told that my graying temples make me look distinguished, but I’m pretty sure they’re just trying to be nice. They can’t actually think that.
My wife loves the sounds I make when I bend over to pick toys up off the floor
I’m balding with middle aged spread and the incessant need to clear my throat.
I’ll level with you, I’m not fighting them off with a shitty stick.
Honestly the bar is set very low for guys. Be in decent shape. Groom yourself. Wear clean, nice fitting clothes.
So many guys at 40+ just seem to give up on doing the bare minimum.
Attractive is attractive. I think a big part of older men being found attractive is the confidence element. Most people run out of “GAF what strangers think” energy in their 40s which translates into confidence.
I do better with women at the age of 46 than I did at 26.
The salt and pepper in my hair and beard seems to be appreciated.
The beer gut, not so much.
Yes.
When we were younger, my wife received much more attention from both men and women, wheras now, I am the one getting more compliments from both men and women. We both look good for our age.
I don’t particularly like the attention from younger women, it makes me uncomfortable. But from women my own age, its gold.
I think women value “youthfulness” less so than actual attractive features.
In other words women find George Clooney hot with gray hair but he was likely very handsome at 25.
It’s not like an ugly 25 yo man is suddenly going to hot when he has wrinkles and gray hair in 15 years.
As a rule, we consciously or subconsciously associate a man of a certain age with success in life, a comfortable lifestyle, reliability, and, at the very least, independence. For many women – especially younger ones – this sparks additional interest. That’s normal.
Attention sure but if you approach you will get the vibes real quick.
I feel like a lot of younger women nowadays have daddy issues. Plus a lot of them grew up in homes with leering step dads and step siblings there’s a reason that spicy content is a popular fetish. Proximity to older non related men in the home during formative years can cause “issues”.
Not to mention older men are presumed to have more resources than younger men. It’s very transactional nowadays. Always has been but nowadays it’s ruthless.
Ask women.
Mature women like security and maturity in their target partners. That happens as you age generally, for both sexes. Immature women like security and excitement, in that order, if you’re financially secure you’ll be successful at every stage of life, with women of some kind. Immature men like Immature women, both of those types of people are widely available at all stages of life. Every once in a while a woman just wants a hard deep dicking, and a dude just wants some strange, regardless of stage in your life cycle.
So, in general, yes some women like aging men.
Insecure women worry about signs of aging because all they have to offer a partner are their bodies, and they’re recognizing that. Mature, secure women don’t have this problem as they contribute far more to partnership then that.
there was a ‘just for men’ commercial a few years back that was meant to cover grey hair, but to leave a bit…
the slogan: “I want to look like i know what im doing, and can still do it”
I’ve seen guys ask this same type of question about getting married, “do you get hit on more after getting married?”. For me the answer is no, I didn’t get hit on before getting married, I don’t get hit on after, I didn’t get hit on when I was younger and I’m not getting hit on more as I’m getting older.
It’s not that they like signs of aging, it’s that their attitudes change after getting burned.
A lot of women spend their 20s chasing a class of guys they didn’t realize would never marry them.
Then one day they realize it and suddenly girls who laughed at you when you were 21 are suddenly interested in you when you’re 41.
You have more money, wear better clothes, know how to be a gentleman, have enough life experience to hold a conversation, better car.
Confidence beats all. If you’re obviously insecure about your hair loss, it’ll show. If you shave it off and own the gray beard, your confidence will be attractive.
My ex wanted me to get a hair transplant. My new lady loves my bald head and is enjoying watching my beard go gray.
Personally, I feel women appreciate that I’m not trying to appear younger than I am.
https://preview.redd.it/kc9vvo9o86wg1.jpeg?width=3074&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d1f981c0730ea82b35b84c8312d5ade49e1a50e4
Of course, my shoulder cat draws a lot of attention, but I often also feel that women use Klook’s presence to approach me.
When I was younger and my appearance unobtrusive, women never initiated flirting, but since my eye was damaged and needed an eyepatch, I ‘retired on disability’ and don’t need to stay in the background anymore. I grew out my facial hair and dress how I like and women started coming over to chat.
And that was before Klook became my shoulder cat. I get regular compliments (mainly from much younger women) on my ‘style’ and appearance. They’re less obviously flirty than men, but rather ask for my [IG](https://www.instagram.com/amsterdamassassin/) to send me the photos they took.
Chicks dig my old man grunt when I stand and the ginger first few steps as I get underway