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Has anyone ever ended a relationship when they took a job opportunity far away? I’m (33M) not for sure going to, but I’m studying international business right now and there seems to be some potential job opportunities in other countries. I love my girlfriend and we get along great, but I’m wondering if it’s better for my future to work overseas and build up a successful career there. She couldn’t come with me because she has two teenagers that live with her.
I could also build a career where I’m at here, but there are some opportunities I’ve become aware of because of trade deals with my country and other countries.
Had an amazing fourth date last night!
Had a frank phone call prior as he wanted to be up front that he is still seeing one other woman and is feeling he needs to make a decision soon on which direction he wants to go. I’ve never been able to really multi date but I’m always aware that it’s a possibility the person I’m seeing is seeing others. I am going to keep getting to know him on my original timeline and see where things are at when that time comes.
I’ve never really had to navigate this? Any advice would be helpful. I am meeting with my therapist on Friday so I’m looking forward to discussing with her how to manage it as well.
Am I ruining my chances on first dates by not crossing the physical touch barrier much? There could my a myriad of reasons that I can’t get a second date, but could this be one of them?
Like, should I have done *something* while we were alone under a heat lamp at the train station after a long date on Saturday?
I mean… 10 years ago, I was the guy she told her friends about after the third date who still didn’t kiss her.. Despite us laying side by side on a blanket during a picnic. Not one of my proudest moments.
Been dating my partner for nearly 6 months and finally met both his parents officially while they were visiting him this past week. (I had met his dad briefly once at an event before we were even dating.) It was a strange dynamic as they said they liked me and I seemed a good match to him. But they also constantly criticized him during the visit, and then after the visit gave him a list of mostly bizarre criticisms about me. His dad in particular seems to take a single impression and assume a person’s entire character and life story off of it. I’m not particularly offended since besides one point they were completely unfounded, but it is befuddling.
1. I talk too much (fair, but my partner and his father are even worse yappers, and his dad spoke easily over 50% of the time.)
2. I might be a golddigger and trying to steal my partner’s house by helping him with his mortgage sometimes. I’m an engineer, and he’s a currently unemployed cancer researcher who is doing gig work to survive his forced career pivot due to grants drying up. Throwing him a couple hundred bucks occasionally to keep his home, which we’re hoping to live in together one day, just makes sense to us.
3. I was super rude by calling him his preferred name instead of his birth name, which his parents took as me attacking them. (Now that we know they’re offended, we decided to just use his birth name around them to keep the peace.)
4. I run away from unpleasant situations instead of sticking it through. They decided this based on me planning to move closer to him and starting a lease rather than move in his house immediately.
5. I refuse to disengage from situations. Tbh this is the opposite of #4 and I’m not even sure where his dad got this impression.
6. I let him be his “worst self” instead of making him be an adult. Sir, I LIKE your son exactly the way he is. His character impressions make me laugh, his strange habits don’t bother me (and if something does bug me he changes it), his games and ideas are fun and everyone else likes and admires him. I do help him grow and change in the ways HE wants to, you are the only people who have a problem with your son being himself.
Rant over! I just thought their list was funny, confusing and weird and wanted to share it with some strangers who aren’t in the middle of it. I’m glad like they like me overall though…
Processing a breakup with my BF of 9 months. I love him a lot, but I’ve been neglecting myself for this relationship for some time.
– He is unemployed and living in his mom’s house (at 39) – all for understandable, allegedly temporary family circumstances, but it’s weighed on me heavily nonetheless. The only place we can hang out with privacy is an unfinished basement, it’s kinda gross and extremely cold. He seems pretty comfortable there despite saying otherwise. It makes me feel like I’m in a dungeon.
– The rest of the house is quite nice, but his mom is around 100% of the time (it’s literally her house so whatever), which feels suffocating to me when I’m there for extended periods. She is a kind person but often on the brink of a breakdown or rage (not directed at me), which puts me on edge.
– The above would not be a huge deal…except for the fact that he “needs” me around all the time in order to cope with his depression (seemingly caused by this living situation). We live about 1.5 hours apart and I work from home, so it was easy to slide into hanging out for weeks at a time, then it became months. My apartment is nice but has too many people living in it for him to visit for more than a few days. So we defaulted to “his” place, which has been eroding my mental health.
– I don’t feel comfortable planning to move in with him (either to his mom’s house [which he has offered multiple times] or eventually our own place) without seeing how he lives without his mom doing all the chores. I’ve been feeling resentment for a while that he just plays video games all day while I work, then asks me to do stuff for him and his mom. This may be petty on my part.
He really doesn’t see how this situation is unbearable to me. I did put up with it for many months, but I ended up drinking quite heavily to just have a good time despite the environment. He says, “I’d live in a leaky tent in the woods to be with you, but you can’t handle my mom’s house.” Which worked as intended…I feel horrible that I’m giving up. Or maybe burning out.
My career has been circling the drain for a while now due to AI, I’m not really able to afford where I live anyways, I have debt that I need to deal with, and my family recently offered me a great opportunity to reset my life/finances, although it would require a big move on short notice. I feel like I latched onto this like a life raft and it caused me to question my entire relationship in a short period of time, and maybe that’s not fair to him. I’m having a lot of regret and self-doubt.
I have three dates scheduled! Super excited to try one right after work. I don’t usually do this because I feel like a mess after work but if this works out I’ll probably start planning all first dates during the week so I can spend weekends with my friends and hobbies(unless I meet someone and we click well). I’m just going to bring a cute dress to change into and makeup.
I haven’t cried once about my breakup which makes sense because I felt detached months ago when I knew it was bad.
I am a little concerned about rushing and dating new people but I’m pretty confident I’ll be able to take my time getting to know someone.
I’m turning 35 in a few months and I really want to find a spouse in the next few years if possible.
Is there a sub where people can tell you what they suspect your type is? Im curious what mine is (feel free to see my profile if you want to share your own insight. I think this [link](https://www.reddit.com/r/hingeapp/comments/1no34wg/which_is_the_better_first_pic/) works). I had a ….not so close… friend say the guys im into wouldnt find me attractive and I need to change my standards.
Again..:not so close friend… so I’ll take it with a bucket of salt.
But it did make me wonder what people imagine my partner would be when they see me
Finally had someone I was interested in join my extended friend circle. I made a move and they were very receptive. I was at a friend’s birthday dinner. Everybody is playing games. Someone I’ve met once was with us and i thought they were very cute.
My mutual friend let me know the cutie may be a mess, but they aren’t sure. But, they do know they’re single. It’s been months since my last date with someone new and years before that one. So, I’m of the mind “can’t hurt to ask them out on a date. Worst case, I get turned down or have a bad date”. I get someone to swap seats so I can sit next to the cutie and ask them out. They’re interested and I get their number. As the night ends my friends even encourage her and I to walk to her car.
Briefly text that night. Go to confirm plans the next day and it’s been a slow roll on her responses. Nothing huge and it’s just a casual first date at the end of this week. But, man, I really feed off of that initial mutual interest stage. Kinda bummed that hasn’t been present. Hopefully we jive and things escalate from there.
There aren’t many better feelings than being consistent in the gym and watching your body change over time through the hard work. It’s nice aesthetically, but also mentally. I know it’s almost a cliche, but I would always recommend it to someone who doesn’t ordinarily do it.
It’s a mood booster for sure. The sense of accomplishment is intoxicating.
And that’s my motivational speech for the week. Free of charge, too!!
How does it look like to date autism person? I just found out my bf is slightly autistic – which I only find him nerdy and awkward sometimes but not really autism as an outsider. He communicates his feelings well, he is attentive.
I’m ADHD so I only know how my ADHD brain works. I’m curious about how his brain works. If anyone else knows or you are autistic, I appreciate your help for my clarification.
Was supposed to see my FWB tomorrow but he had to cancel (very valid reason, was really apologetic etc). He’s going away for three weeks so I’m not gonna see him for a while which sucks. Gonna miss our connection and hope I get to see him once he’s settled back.
Meanwhile the past 7 men I’ve asked out on Grindr all stopped replying when I asked to meet/get a drink/whatever. They messaged me first so I’m not sure what to think.
I already feel like I’m compromising and even then I’m getting nowhere.
I want to date, would love to be in a relationship but that doesn’t actually feel like an option for me. I’m trying but it’s not happening and I can’t even seem to get something to tide me over.
I have a new job bartending in NYC and it pretty much has confirmed that I was wasting my time by trying to date in Vermont. Day one of my job and I get unsolicited contact info from 7 different women. It’s straight up bewildering when you used to basically never see anyone in your own damn age group.
As it turns out, problems that can be drowned in alcohol are really not that big of problems. 🥂
Last week was genuinely horrible for me, especially this weekend. I was having a truly horrible day and it kept getting worse and worse. Eventually I just started drinking and decided to deal with everything awful on the same day all at once.
It was the right decision. I slept off the hangover and things are much better now since. A problem I’ve been mulling for the past 6 months finally straightened out in my head which I’m super happy about!
Has anyone dated a dismissive avoidant with success, as an anxious or secure-anxious leaning person? Just trying to see if I am deluding myself that I can self-regulate to oblivion and somehow transform my ex-situationship in a real thing. The no texting for few days at a time/not hearing from him is killing me.
Had not felt especially bleak about being single until I checked Meetup out of curiosity and saw that if I have to put myself out there my options are line dancing, real estate investment networking events, AI discussions, and something called “Bitcoin & Beer.” Not great out there!
Hello! I’m back on the apps after my last LTR ended 6 months ago. I have never had much luck with them and met almost all my dates/relationships either through social network or some random places on the Internet (like some niche hobby forums). But as I’ve entered my 30s most of my social circles have slowly dissolved or got busy with partners/kids and it’s hard to meet people organically. So I’ve decided to try my luck on the apps again! I’m on Bumble because I got banned on Hinge for an unknown reason and Tinder is too casual for me. The problem is I barely get any likes (around 1-2 per week), and even less matches. I wonder what I could improve, I know my bio and prompts are kinda bland but I struggle with describing myself in a quirky and funny dating app style. Anyway keen to hear some thoughts!
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Okay so, in theory, I’m a “relationship person.” In practice, I’ve had one long, drawn out situationship, and a couple casual hookups before that. Now it’s been over a year and a half since I’ve seen the situationship guy, I’ve been on 5 first dates, and nothing panned out from the first 4.
The 5th one though, was yesterday. And we got along well, seem to have a lot in common. He’s been very clear that he needs to be casual because he’s moving away in a few weeks. Normally I wouldn’t go for this, but… I’m so touch starved. It’s been almost two years since I’ve even kissed anyone.
And I have nothing else on the horizon – I have no reason to think there’s a relationship-level connection right around the corner that I should wait for. So I think I’m just gonna lean into this casual thing as much as I can before he moves. Second date tomorrow, hopefully he at least kisses me! I should probably ask him to.
Anyone more experienced with casual dating have advice for me?
At the start of December last year I was on holiday for two weeks, and during that time I attended some dance fit classes which I wanted to continue when I got home.
Fast forward to January and I find that the village hall around the corner from me hosts an event called Boogie Bounce which I thought sounded interesting. Turns out it’s dance fit on trampolines, which was a novelty.
This evening I’ve come back from my third session. I’m currently the only man who attends which I think is awesome, but regardless of that it’s a good opportunity for me to start pushing myself in terms of learning to make new friends again, especially now that I’m starting to recognise more familiar faces and am myself starting to be recognised by the regulars.
A silly example of pushing myself is just actually saying hello to people I’ve been acquainted with, instead of waiting for them to say hello to me first (likewise for goodbye). That’s one thing that’s always held me back – this subconscious notion that I need to wait for somebody else to make the first move, or otherwise indicate that I have “permission” to speak. Goes back to the fact I was always unpopular at school when I was a child, but a reason is not an excuse and it’s something I’m actively trying to overcome now.
When I was leaving the building, I was behind two other ladies from the class. I knew that if I just went my own way and didn’t say anything, neither of them would either. But I’d already greeted one of them at the start of the class, so I broke through my usual barrier and just said “Good night!”. The outcome was that the one I greeted at the start turned around and reciprocated my goodbye.
I know that when reading that story on the merit of its facts alone, it sounds like the most trivial thing in the world that one would expect a child to have no difficulty with, but it’s all about overcoming negative patterns. Not all negative behavioural patterns are dramatic, some of them are just very subtle like waiting for that invitation to say hello to somebody when it’s clearly appropriate, in that context, to be the one to say hello first.
TL;DR – 39 year old man is pleased with himself for saying hello and goodbye to a relative stranger. Well done BLauritson, we’re all very proud of you.
Thought it would be nice to do my first self check-in post of 2026. I’ve found this thread can be helpful for journaling, or at least something to look back on later if I need it.
Financially, I’m in a good place. Despite the current economic climate, things have been steady at work. I’ve finally saved enough to buy a new car, and more excitingly, I’m in a position to purchase my first home when I’m ready. Both are huge milestones for me….exciting, but also a little scary. Still, it feels like the natural next step in my life, even if it’s path that I’m walking alone.
Dating-wise, I’m just about a month into my winter mental health break. All apps and profiles are deleted, all situationships have been ended, and I don’t really have an ETA on if or when I’ll jump back into that dating game. Each extended break makes it harder to convince myself to return. I’ve also noticed I have mixed feelings about the silence that comes with stepping away from the apps. Some days I genuinely enjoy not getting texts or notifications at all; other days, it can feel a little lonely.
Friendship-wise, it’s been a bit of a roller coaster. My (31m) main friend group consists of four men in their 50s, and over the last year each of them has developed serious health issues. The youngest was diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer this summer and we’ll find out in April if treatment was successful. Another has had prostate issues, one had a liver aneurysm, and I was just told this weekend that the last guy was diagnosed with a heart aneurysm and will need open-heart surgery soon. I’m not sure if this is just a preview of what being in your 50’s is like, or if my friend group is somehow cursed. Meanwhile, my one former close friend my age still hasn’t spoken to me since getting married and having a child. However, on a more positive note, I recently randomly reached out to an old concert buddy that I lost touch with a few years ago, and he actually responded. Things are clearly different now, but I asked if he’d be open to grabbing dinner sometime in the coming weeks, and to my surprise, he agreed. Whether it actually happens or not, we’ll see, but it’s something.
Anyway, 2026 feels like it’s starting off a bit all over the map. Curious to see what it looks like by the end of the year.
Me feeling bad about this situation makes no logical sense, but here I am because the dating scene in your 30’s just messes with your confidence. I met a younger girl about 4-5 months ago online and right after our first date, she spilled the beans that she was legally married still for green card purposes. She told me that even though she doesn’t live with her husband and wanted to legally divorce him, her attorney advised against it until she was no longer on a conditional green card about a year + from now. She wouldn’t even entertain a relationship with someone right now because it would risk her status in the US. I knew long term that wasn’t going to work for me, but just my luck that this is someone who I seemed to click with. So I said screw it, why not go with the flow until I can find someone more of a long term fit. We had chemistry and would chat everyday, but over the course of 3-4 months, i only saw her 3 times for dates and nothing eventful happened. We’d still chat a lot and flirt (albeit innocently), but I figured she was kind of flaky when it came to actually meeting up and don’t expect much. Then bam… outta nowhere one night in early December, she messages me that she’s horny and wants to have sex. I take the bait, she comes to my place the next night and it happens. I thought she enjoyed it. She was willing and wanted a round 2. I drove her home and we kissed goodnight. She messaged me after a few times and then went away traveling internationally for a month! I heard from her sparingly, which I chalked up to the international travel. Figured I’d get another opportunity to see her when she returned. She came back about a week and a half ago.. and she responded a few times when i messaged her, but then stopped when I mentioned hanging out again. Then the next day, she of course “likes” a story of mine, but still no response. Guessing it’ll be more of the same crap like that. Naturally, I wonder if the sex wasn’t enjoyable for her despite her acting pretty into it, which of course hurts my confidence and ego, but who knows?! And regardless of the reasoning for not wanting to see me again, why not explain that to me…even if you give a different reason, etc. Idk. I guess the bigger issue here is, why do I care and let it impact my self-confidence when she doesn’t meet my criteria for a long term partner? A) I want a long term relationship and don’t see myself trying to hold out waiting on some mess like someone legally married for a green card to resolve itself and B) I would like a family and she definitely does NOT want one. So why am I here feeling hurt or bad about this situation in the first place now?! I guess that’s a better question for my therapist lol. I think the reality is dating is difficult and I’m a man with a sex drive, so I was at least thinking maybe it could be a consistent situationship until I meet the right person. Not the most noble reason, but it is what it is.. Oh well…
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I just want to be genuinely loved and cared for by someone who is also single and prefers exclusivity 😢 I won’t use OLDs for a very long while. My longest duration potential partner who claimed he’s single and looking for a marriage partner turns out to have a gf already 😭
“Can I kiss you” is one of the hottest combinations of four words known to man, Jesus Tyrone Christ.
I am so confused..
I am currently dating exclusively but still in (platonic) conversation/friendship with a guy I have went on several dates with.. in 2024 and 2025.
I notice I keep comparing the guys.. and my boyfriend keeps falling short.. except, he does make me feel at home, being with him gives me a sense of belonging. (even though the relationship otherwise lacks depth and content, we have our shortcomings even in the short period we’ve been together)
Often when I’m alone in my house, especially when he’s not really responsive.. I feel like I should break up with him, not because I want to be with the other guy, I don’t, but because I need more from a relationship.. and I forget all about it when I see him again and I’m just happy to see him and be in his arms..
idk.. maybe I’m broken..
Recently found out I (37/m) am autistic. And I don’t mean just a little quirky, I mean like, it’s glaringly obvious if you know what you’re looking for. But I was married for 7 years (turned into a DV situation that I’m still recovering from). I mask well to a point, it’s how I’ve made it this far in life… but only to a point.
I think this information is going to throw some wrenches in dating. Which sucks.
I’ve been in a relationship with my bf for a little over 2 years now. Everyone around me is moving forward so fast, getting to engaged and moving in together, etc. We spend a lot of time together. I have a lot of my clothes and things at his place but, we haven’t had a serious talk about the future yet. I tend to get pretty emotional over this once a month and have a freak out moment but I always realize that I like having my own space and don’t need to move in with him right now. I guess it still hurts me that he doesn’t bring it up because it makes me feel like he doesn’t want this.
I want him to want it. I’ve brought it up multiple times when I’m emotionally freaking out but that’s about it. Im trying hard not to bring it up anymore. But I just dont know how to feel
I scheduled a date today on OLD with someone for Sunday. They’ve been a little bit flaky so I’m honestly a little bit surprised they said Sunday worked.
Should I send a follow up text at all later this week to check in? They’ve gone days without texting me back before so I’m a little bit concerned
Been back on the apps for a few weeks and just cannot get any conversations to take off. Someone will match with me and start a conversation, I’ll reply and ask 3-4 questions over the course of a convo and get dry responses back with no reciprocal questions, or maybe a “You?” back. I even say in my profile one of my favorite things is great conversation. Like y’all please do everyone a favor and if you aren’t actually interested in conversing just don’t match with people. Sigh.
Also weirdly Tinder keeps saying I’ve matched with the same person over and over. We haven’t talked yet but he’s in my matches, and it keeps telling me “Matched with X five hours ago”, even though we matched like a few days ago. Does that mean he keeps seeing my profile and liking it again? Or just some weird glitch? Every time I get back on Tinder it seems like it’s gotten more random annoying things added to it. Maybe I’m too jaded to be on the apps right now lol.
I (35F) met a nice man (39M) on hinge a few weeks ago and we went out on a date. I followed up the next day saying I’d had a great time and would like to see him again. I also suggested another date. He said that’d be great and suggested a day, but I was going to be gone on a camping trip. When I said that, he said okay maybe when you’re back? and said yes, and I haven’t heard from him since. I just got back from my trip, is it worth it to follow up?
Not in a good mood today. Stressed about so many things and it gives me this “freeze” reaction.
I was anxious about the guy not reaching out for 2 days. Eventually I sent him a little text like “hope you are well,” I genuinely started worrying about his safety. He called me. Said he did nothing the last two days (I didn’t ask). I don’t know if I want this. I don’t need this hot and cold attitude in my life. I am already exhausted from everything, clearly don’t need a man disturbing my peace.
I am so tired, i just want to cry. But if I start it will last for way too long and I still have to do some work.
I realized that my main and probably only grounding power in life is my friends. When I close my eyes and think about them, I feel like swimming in the ocean during golden hour. I just love them so much. I don’t know how they are so great. I cannot wait to see them later this week. We might be drafting a statute for our little animal association. I hope so much it can work. I don’t trust myself anymore. Some series of unfortunate events were happening to me that I dread of making any plans. But I am glad that in that association will be one my friend whom I totally trust and trust he can do it even if I break down. I am tired of myself having ideas and having absolutely no strength to implement them.
It breaks my heart how people and animals back home are freezing to death under shellings due to the destruction of energy infrastructure. I would feel so much as a kid or teenager seeing some poor stray dog. And here I am, feeling so absolutely desensitized.
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Something unpleasant happened to me over the weekend. A woman who’s a friend of a friend reached out to me because she’s recently been seeing the man I was dating over the summer (and am still grieving, to my embarrassment). She said she thought he was handsome but that he made her feel ‘uneasy’, and she wanted to reach out to me as a character witness since she knew through our mutual friend that I used to be with him. The interaction made me deeply uncomfortable. On the one hand I appreciated the woman reaching out, and I was respectful to her yet honest (I told her that my experience with him was a negative one, in general terms), but on the other, it kind of destabilized me to be associated with him again in a space that wasn’t my own ruminations. I just want to get over him, honestly. I’ve had him blocked everywhere for months now because he made me feel unsafe. And now I have to worry about other women reaching out to me in the future. I’m ashamed to be this sensitive about the whole situation, while I wish I could just detach and feel neutral about it all.
I am refusing to use OLD and man, it’s hard to find people! I’m active in the community and am back in grad school. Where is everyone??? Everyone in my world is in a relationship, way too young or way older
I had a really nice date last night with an amazing woman. But tomorrow, she’s leaving with a one way ticket across the country. We kissed and I held her in my arms. We didn’t want to commit to anything at this point but decided we should keep talking and see where things go.
It felt really good in the moment, but this morning I realized how hard distance makes things when you’re just beginning and things will likely not work out
Crush gave me so much hope before the new years I was planning to initiate a conversation with him starting in 2026, but there were just no opportunities, I was busy with the clients today when he took the other clients around, he ended up making his way to the other side when I came out from the room, did he even see me? I don’t know. I was looking at his schedule too it made me more anxious. I wonder if I should just give up on him and start matching with people from online, but how can I do that when I’m so in love with my crush.
The loveliest thing happened to me but of course it didn’t last. I just had a meet cute happen in real life! I was walking back home from work through the park in the freezing cold. I always wondered if I’d meet someone casually with a dog. I saw a person far away who looked like someone I dated. I continued walking and his dog comes running towards me. I pet the dog and, usually my go-to is say something friendly and walk away knowing the person is already partnered (where I live, highly unlikely someone walking in the park is single). But he engages in my temperature remark and he looks familiar. I tell him that and I realize he’s someone I recently matched with on a dating app!! The whole vibe became funny and we had a light conversation with smiles, simple get-to-know-you questions. He never engaged with me on the app, and he said there must have been something objective about my profile like if I didn’t want kids or I was a smoker, or if my photos didn’t indicate how charming I was. Anyway, I proceeded to ask him the same questions and he said, let’s do that over coffee? And I said yeah and we separated. But it’s been an hour and I haven’t heard from him so… yeah. I mean, I totally understand that there’s something about my profile he didn’t think was right for him. It’s annoying that even in real life, you can hit it off and still not have a follow-through. What’s more annoying is, I was walking back home in good spirits, thinking about closing the app and just forgetting about this dating thing. Then I meet someone in this cute way, and still get rejected. Haha. It put a damper on my mood a little. And this comes after me and another person matched 2 weeks ago, he was excellent at having an engaging conversation and definitely wanted to meet me. He was going on a short vacation and was going to reach out once he was back. I had my hopes up but knowing my luck, I also knew I wouldn’t hear from him again. It’s been 5 days :). I don’t know what it is. Something about me or my profile, I’m attractive, smart, bubbly, creative, but something seems to be coming in the way and I don’t know what it is.
I really wonder who the serial downvoter is and what is their issue, that they want to go on the DoT daily threads and do this on a regular basis…
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I(35M) really need to expand my social circle (it currently consists of me and my two cats) and one way I was thinking of doing it was by hanging out at a coffee shop for a couple of hours every Saturday. Is this a good idea? How do I present myself as approachable without looking like a creep?
I’m feeling the “I’m too old to ever be hot again” blues.
I’ve dated/slept with a few guys recently who, although interested at first, later told me that my weight is a problem. I’m stuck in this place of holding space for the feeling that I deserve to be desired, and also knowing that even the guys who have gone out with/slept with me recently have expressed that they settled.
I just don’t want to be settled for.
Would messaging a girl on OLD you know be a cop out? There’s a girl I’m interested in and I only ever see her maybe once or twice a month at a hobby club but she’s always popping up on my OLD queue. I definitely prefer to ask in person but I rarely ever see her
I opened this account almost ten years ago to help me with online dating. Spoiler: still single, still trash :’)
anyway I basically have a PhD in dating and like the real thing it’s useless. here for anyone who needs terrible advice.
Hot take: “emotional intelligence” in a profile is impossible to engage with and will not, if fact, do anything to select for emotional intelligence.
So far it’s a banner year for men I’ve matched with not responding to me on dating apps. Just crickets out there.
Welp. The trains in my city have become so unreliable in recent months that I had to shrink my Hinge radius down even further and now I’m out of people.