Me (F31) in a long distance relationship with (m23) and we haven’t had sex for almost a year. Last 6 month i was In my country the 6 month before we spend together and in month 2/6 he told me that he needs a break of sex as past relationship issues (emotional cheating of my side, sexual issues between us and a talk stage relationship I had with another guy when we have been broken up for a few month. My bf also slept with another woman during our break
Up and hasn’t told me for month, so lot of trauma here on both sides). I accepted that he needs space not knowing that this sex break would last months …. Now I came back to stay with him another 6 months. 3 weeks in, still no sex; he says he doesn’t feel safe after a big fight we had, that he has a hard time giving in and that he doesn’t want sex for the sake of it. The last time he said he needs time and time will fix it, which didn’t happen. That’s why this time I’m not believing in this anymore. I’m a very firy woman, he sometimes says I’m masculine and it’s unattractive. However when I asked him if he’s not attracted to me anymore and if that’s the reason that he doesn’t sleep with me, he denied that. I have a high sex drive and I miss that part of the relationship deeply. I am unwilling to negotiate any longer on my need for sex. He believes in monogamy and is possessive while I’d be open to open the relationship. He has a very stressful job, and his overall lifestyle is very unhealthy, which probably adds to a low drive. He is avoidant attachment leaning and it’s very hard to navigate conversations with him. What can I do and how shall I tell him
That I’m not willing to wait longer? I am an attractive person and when I’m out I usually get eyed on or people talking to me. Help please. I feel like a grandma. This shouldn’t be the sexless age yet, really not.
TL;DR; : My boyfriend no longer wants Sex with me, I don’t know what to do and I Need Advice
5 comments
Breakup and find someone else who is compatible with you, locally preferably. Long distance things doesn’t work at all.
Long distance can be hard
Have mercy on the kid and break up with him. This is a really unhealthy relationship and you’ll both be better off alone.
But it also sounds like neither of you would have trouble finding a more suitable partner. This is just a bad match.
What’s their in it? I haven’t had s3x for last 25years
Why on earth are you with a 23 year old at 31? Girl, I would say leave him alone and find someone your own age, but you don’t seem very mature yourself.