was i right to cut him off?

so i was talking transitioning to dating this guy since march and he was the sweetest guy at the start: telling me to take care of myself, asking how my day went, showing concern for me etc.

we text everyday and have gone out & things were nice but at the start of may he started showing attitude to me: always having to win discussions about things, being passive aggressive & got annoyed when i asked if he was coping ok because of his busy schedule (he’s in the military in singapore so his job hours are ungodly).

he has his triggers doesnt want to talk about his mom because she passed 2 years ago (understandable) and his job because he hates talking about it. so i respected that and never brought them up.

he knew i had a bad experience with ghosting & how i hate it. i’m pretty reasonable and know we all have our hermit moments & are busy with our jobs. but i stated before that i’d like communication made if either of us were to disappear or need space.

but i guess ghosting during an emotional time was the breaking point for me.

3 weeks ago, my ex & my aunt & uncle passed in the same week & im more sensitive that usual & he never asked how i was doing. he ghosted me one day & i told him i was triggered by it. i communicated to him that i would be more sensitive but it would pass & i’ll be back to normal soon and that i’m managing my grief as much as possible.

he told me that he’s “big on not being accountable to anyone” & that he will disappear if he doesnt want to talk anymore. then left me on read ghosted me for a few days when i was in the midst of explaining my feelings.

i took it as him not wanting anything to do with me so i deleted the chat for both of us. then he messaged me saying he was thinking things through & that i was in the wrong for deleting the chat.

when i told him he could have communicated that to me instead of ghosting, he simply said “ok no need to argue about this. goodbye then.” and i deleted the chat again for the both of us LOL.

was i right to feel disrespected & to end things?