My boyfriend (23M) and I (23F) have been dating for 10 months. I rarely have time to meet with his parents because I work alot and when his family and I do talk- it’s very awkward because I’m naturally a shy/reserved person and need time to warm up with. I approached them in a different way than communication, i bring fruits and snacks when I visit (or pass by during work), bought them a souvenir (wine) when I came back from a roadtrip, and mother’s day gifts. However, I’m pretty awkward, gift giving is my method of warming up to their presence, but I feel discouraged at the moment because it just feels like I’m not good enough.
They think my partner can definitely do better, and asked him to ‘reconsider this relationship’.
Reasons being : I’m too reserved, I’m a vegetarian, and I don’t integrate with his family well.
I’m unsure what to do because I do love him, but I don’t want him feeling sad about his family’s disapproval of me. He’s in a difficult and indecisive situation to continue or not because he feels nobody in his life support this relationship.
+ it’s his first relationship so he was getting roasted by his parents for choosing the wrong girl because they don’t see me bringing anything to the table/changing him for the better.
Tldr; He’s in a huge dilemma about whether it’s healthy for us to continue our relationship because his family thinks he can find someone better 🙁
I love him and I’m unsure what to do.
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I would not continue that relationship because worse case scenario they begin to do petty things to run you away and situations like that make me think of safety issues. I wouldn’t put nothing past anyone.
If they dislike you for the reasons you mentions, then that’s excuses and they just want to control his life. If your doing your part and they’re not then they def have an issue.
You need to let him know.
So my partners parents don’t like me, we’ve been together almost 8 years.
Their parents not liking you will just make things a bit difficult. They either will have to grow and like you or your bf has to not care they don’t like you. Especially because they will probably always think there is someone better for him no matter who he is with (my partners parents are like that too). He can’t live his life for his family, he has to live it for himself and decide if HE wants to be with you.
I don’t know the whole situation but from my own experience you have to stand your ground and not compromise who you are as a person. If your bf asks you to that isn’t good.
I hope you have good luck and no matter what it will be okay! 💜
Edit: I don’t think you should call it quits unless you want to. Sure his parents could be petty like another commenter said but it’s up to you and your bf to either let it work or not.