What is an unwritten rule when dating you?

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1. Don’t ever do anything worse to me than what I’ve already been through.

2. Don’t ever try to control me.

3. You hurt me I’ll hurt you worst

4. Don’t ever think that ghosting me or ignoring me would make me care more ! I move on Soo fast

5. It’d be “don’t be fucking late”.

6. Don’t make me feel like I’m walking on eggshells.

7. Dont say things to make me happy, actually mean it and say how you feel. Ignoring me isn’t the answer, I will sense things are weird and will ask you about it. Don’t argue about how I should feel.

8. If I say I’m hungry and need to eat, you stop and you let me get food immediately, not ifs nor buts.

   You don’t even have to eat yourself. But if I get to the point of saying that, it means that if I don’t get something to eat very quickly, you’ll get a sulking sarcastic asshole ready to bite your head off that is also incapable of deciding what to eat and will eventually get hypoglycemia.

9. Don’t pressure me into doing something I’m uncomfortable with that means in any situation.

10. Don’t ignore me.

11. I don’t want drugs in my life. If you do them then we can’t date

12. don’t have a better lego collection than me

13. They must have the same political opinions as me

14. 1 Loyalty is important to me. Break up with me but don’t cheat.

    2 Don’t neg me. I can take constructive criticism or even a scolding, but don’t try to diminish me as a tactic.

    3 We both have to be able to listen and apologize.

15. Don’t be an inconsiderate lying dumb ass

16. Don’t try to tell me what to do. Also, if you don’t want to be with me anymore, just break up with me. Being dumped is no where as bad as being cheated on or being with someone who hates you.

    Edit: to add, remind me that you care about me every day. I don’t need big love declarations all the time, just little gestures or looks or touches or whatever to keep assuring me that you care. I’m needy like that, I guess.

17. If I’m having a panic attack the worst possible thing you can do is try to talk to me even if you’re trying to comfort me. I get incredibly over stimulated and you will only make things worse.

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19. Must be friendly and respectful to service people.

20. If my kids don’t like you, then neither do I.

21. That there are no second chances. I am the kind of person that gives it everything but if you make me regret it you are gone in a split second.

22. you *better* hug me. unless you’ve done something grave enough for me to leave you, HUG ME or i’ll be sad 🙁

23. If I say something will upset me, believe me. Don’t do it to see for yourself.

24. Put me as your number one. That doesn’t mean he has to do everything for me, but when it counts, I should be able to rely on him 100 %.

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27. Don’t lie to me

    Don’t try to control me

    Don’t be rude

    Don’t try to manipulate me to do anything I don’t want to do

    Don’t touch me unless I give you permission

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29. Take no for an answer THE FIRST TIME I say I don’t want to have sex.

30. I always try to mean what I say, and I need that from a partner. transparency. please communicate. you won’t hurt my feelings unless you’re breaking up with me over something completely unexpected and unspoken.
    oh! and important conversations never happen on the phone. ever.

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32. Please be kind to me

33. Be honest, be present.

34. I’m definitely dating to find a romantic partner but I need to feel at least a baseline friendship chemistry. If we can’t hang out or don’t click as people then nothing else will work out

35. I’m a dumbass and sometimes I do stupid shit

    100% a requirement to be in a relationship with me is being able to call me out when I’m being dumb

36. Don’t get upset with me when I’m just trying to communicate how I feel and fix things.

37. Don’t touch my neck. No trauma or anything, I just *loathe* being touched there. Like a cat that hates belly rubs. Immediate defense reaction ensues.

38. hold me, touch me , hug me , please show me any physical form of love

39. I’m not a mind reader. If there’s something wrong or if you’re annoyed/angry about something, just fucking say it. I’m done with the whole silent treatment mindgames.

40. Never yell at me. If you yell, you’re out the door.