What advice would you give a young person going on their first date?

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1. It’s a date, not an audition. Don’t feel the need to perform or impress your date.

2. Don’t stress it out. Have fun and be proactive. Even if it fails, you get experience talking to people and being social.

3. Really Listen. Asked questions about what you find interesting about what they said. Repeat. If it’s not interesting, ask a better question.

4. 1. This is an audition, for your role as The Sex Guy. Don’t forget that, or ever stop thinking about it.
   2. You need to perform. You need to impress your date, and if you’re not putting in huge amounts of effort for this right off the bat you’ve already lost.
   3. Get stressed. Take a massive dose of caffeine or just the strongest stimulant you can find about 2 hours before the date. 30 minutes or so before, start thinking about your biggest fears and insecurities, or any trauma you’ve faced. If you’re paranoid and ready to absolutely snap off in confrontation, you’re ready.

5. Don’t ask for advice on Reddit

6. Have fun, kiddo. Don’t sweat it.

7. To say your age and what the date is when asking for advice.

8. I dunno, lick it before you stick it? Could be too advanced.

9. Be yourself.

   Be honest.

   And shave your balls.

10. If they are more than 10 minutes late, leave (it’s showing you disrespect). Go for a coffee only (probably too young to drink, and it can be awkward to kill time if the date is terrible and you’re waiting for your entrees to come). Actually be yourself, not what you think they will like. Be clean and presentable to the best of your abilities. And do not be afraid to just call it quits if giant red flags present themselves.

11. RELAX!!!

12. 1. Your not entitled to sex and she’s not entitled to your wallet.

    2. Don’t be a dick.

    3. Have fun.

    4. If they show disrespect let them know right then. If they still show disrespect to you or someone else (ex. Waiter/waitress, doorman, etc.) end the date then.

    5. If their 10 minutes late and didn’t call leave. If they called and are 15 minutes late. Leave.

13. Just be a gentleman. Charm her and make it your mission to keep her secured and comfortable while giving her a good time. Girls likes to have fun and enjoy their time with their dates, but they also want to be secured, protected and respected at the same time. Now just find the right balance of those things to give her a perfect time. 🙂

14. If she is on her phone….only warn her once. After that get up and excuse yourself to the restroom and leave.

15. Don’t blow a lot of money for something that’s not even a commitment.

16. The experience is great to have, even if it doesn’t go anywhere for you.

17. Be yourself 🤗

18. Feeling at ease and confident is the best attractor you can get. Feeling nervous is natural, but if you feel chill and comfortable and you’re having fun, that energy is infectious and will work 100x better than any possible attempt to come off as “cool” or “romantic” will.

    All that to say, it’s fun. You’re having fun – you’re going out with someone you (presumably) find attractive. They’re nervous too. Just remember you’re having fun, you’re having a good time, and that relaxed feeling generates awesome first date energy

19. If she doesn’t offer anal on a first date. She is not the one

20. Don’t settle for less than you want, need or deserve and don’t exaggerate what your willing to give, invest or commit to.

21. Girls are just like guys — people. Don’t make it weird by talking to her in ways that you wouldn’t talk to anyone else.

    Think of it more like hanging out with a new friend you’re trying to get to know better

22. Don’t get into a mindset of “if it doesn’t work out I did something wrong, she doesn’t like me, I’m worthless, I’m not attractive”. A lot of people are just simply incompatible, don’t click, or don’t find each other attractive, and that is 1000% normal. Just because one person doesn’t find you attractive or interesting, doesn’t mean that you ARE unattractive or not interesting. A lot comes down to a matter of taste, and everyone on this planet has unique taste.

    Have a look at things like pineapple on pizza, a lot of people love it – and a lot of people hate it. Taste can be like that when it comes to attraction and clicking with another person as well, some people will find you attractive/interesting/funny etc, and others won’t. If for whatever reason the two of you don’t click, don’t worry about it – just move onto the next person.

23. Prepare for the worst, hope for the best

24. Sucking is the first step towards getting better at something

    Don’t try to hide that this is your first time; everyone realizes it, and they understand that you’re trying your best

    Remember that you got the hard part out of the way.

    Getting the courage to ask someone out is the hardest part.

    Now all you have to do is just be yourself.

    You are close, just follow through and be yourself

    Be present, and enjoy being in the moment.

    Don’t spend time second guessing yourself, worrying about things, and (honestly) taking extra time out of your life, thinking there’s tips or tricks to do this better

    Because ultimately speaking, they’re not going on a date with me.

    They’re not going on a date with anyone else in this thread.

    They’re going on a date with you.

    So don’t try to be us, be yourself.

    I wasn’t the one that was able to land a date with this person, you were the one that already did all the hard work here

    And that same person, is probably going to end up being okay afterwards. Because remember, you’re the one that got yourself to this point. So you’re already doing great; just keep following through

25. Be yourself and you’re getting to know somebody, so enjoy the experience.

    Present yourself how you want to be treated. If you turn up in a grease stain shirt and not shower, she’s going to think you not making an effort and a bit of a bum. Same goes for girls, if you turned up dressed like a hooker, he’s going to think you’re a hooker.

    If you’re date is messing with their phone for more that 10% of the date, after a free meal and no date 2 and go Dutch. If your on your phone longer that 10% of the time, she’s not going on a date again.

    Yes you can be a gentleman and pay for the date, however in my experience. A decent girl will make at least a token gesture to offer to go Dutch. The lack of even a half assed effort tells me she’s entitled.

    Big faux par to talk about ex’s, so don’t do it.

    If the date is going poorly to don’t feel you are obligated to power through the rest of the date uncomfortable. Politely explain, excuse yourself, and grab a pizza on the way home.

26. Wear a condom…

27. Guard your heart.

28. Depends on the goals he has. In any case be sincer about them. If looking for some pleasant short time interaction, than just enjoy your time and don’t forget about protection. If it’s about long term then think carefully about what you can’t tolerate in potential partner right it down then think about signs that can indicate those issues. Remeber that red flags and look for them carefully.

29. Do NOT go to the movies. Pick a date that’s interactive. You’re supposed to get to know each other, and watching a show is a large chunk of the date where you’re just sitting there with maybe a whisper or two. Movie dates are for after you’re together.

30. Be respectful, kind … yourself.