Hi everyone,
Looking for a bit of advice.
I’ve read here and there that quite a few couples like to enjoy porn together.
Now I’ve (36M) watched porn alone before, and my wife (35F) has watched porn alone before but we’ve never done it before together and I’m wondering how to incorporate that into some of our time together.
– How do you go over the initial awkardness? (We are not generally awkward with each other and pretty open, it’s just new teritory to conquer that used to be private for us).
– Do you choose a scene together to make sure it’s something you both enjoy or surprise one another?
– How do you actually watch? When we go solo we both tend to skip from scene to scene and skim around while masturbating until we find a section we like to climax to.
– Do you start watching in silence and then move to foreplay and then sex with the scene going on in the background to then be relegated to background music?
– How do YOU use it?
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We use it as something fun to incorporate into mutual masturbation. Usually we’ll both pick something we find and send it to each other during the day to kinda get each other worked up. Then we actually kinda take turns watching. I’ll watch a scene ,usually just on our phones, and masturbate while my partner either watches me or helps please me. He’s less worried about how I’m watching in terms of skipping around and more focused on the pleasure aspect. It’s been a really fun add for us , hope this helps 😊
Have paid for some subscriptions so know it usually good.
At first I’d try and find things I thought she’d like and took it easy at first. After a while she would find certain guys and scenes better than others so would seek them out for a while.
Tends to be in bed with phone hooked up to projector. We maybe masturbate or oral with it on background or watching whatever. Sometimes…especially when novel she’d cum quote easily from it..Not not so much so is often just mood setting.
Overall a good positive sex addition Over the last couple of years of marriage.
I’ve made my wife into my favorite source of porn by watching other guys fuck her.
There’s no way of getting over the initial awkwardness unless maybe you send her the clip during the day that you like and that way she knows what to expect, kind of breaks the ice. Hubby likes for me to pick the clip because he likes to know what turns me on but rotating who gets to pick is also a good option. We don’t pick long clips so that we don’t have to skip around, usually we watch from beginning to end just like that. At some point we are both really turned on and will start to masturbate. He likes to ask me what I like about scenes and gets vocal asking me questions to get my mind wondering.
Many many many years ago I would watch a porn movie with a girl and we’d watch until we lost interest and started fucking.
After a while porn movies became boring, redundant, uninspiring, etc.
Now I’m more inclined to use snippets (GIFs or stills) as teaching and conditioning aids.
It’s a little weird at first but I highly recommend a serious but light hearted intimate conversation before trying it to avoid awkwardness in the moment. It’s very important that you both have an open mind and not be judgmental of what each other admits to watching. Plan the conversation ahead, have a seat together on the couch and just talk openly. (It will probably end with an exciting sexual experience because discussing these things could be a big turn on for both of you.)
You’ll need to discuss what types of porn turns you on (& vs), like massage scenes or multiple people, etc etc so as not to shock each other with your preferences. Say you like to watch threesomes and she’s totally not into that, it could ruin the entire experience. So talk about it first, please. See if you can find a common ground, if not pick something that is more of a romantic couples scene to get started with.
As far as how to watch it, I suggest watching it like your watching a movie together while your in the experimental phase of it. Cuddle up together on the couch or in bed, whatever. Let it turn you both on and then everything sexual between the two of you should flow naturally. Like maybe start with touching each other while you’re watching and go from there. Maybe go down on each other..etc.. I wouldn’t necessarily say that you should try and replay what you’ve watched or anything, just let it happen.. Unless it’s something you’ve both wanted to try but haven’t yet, then it’s ok. Remember, you’re not porn star’s and a lot of what they do is not necessarily what people do in a normal relationship.
Having an open mind, trust, and communication is KEY!
Just be open and communicate about it. You can learn alot about your partner. Don’t kink shame and don’t over use porn either.
Bellessa! It has porn that appeals to women but its all really high caliber stuff with current stars. Excellent for couples.
Don’t use it
Just turn it on in The background and start touching gently. If your still too shy try a sexy movie or tv series (like game of thrones or something)
If your thinking awkward is your love life that’s your change needed
Take turns picking different ones you like. It helped me learn a lot about my gfs fantasies. Also helped us both learn more about what we wanted together and didn’t want.
I’d have her pick 1 that she liked. What she thought was fun, or to pick something she’d like to try. If it was something new, we’d watch and discuss the possibilities while touching each other.
The porn, plus the fantasy talk, plus pleasing each other really made for some fun times.
Oh god, my partner and I tried to do this. We spent a hot minute scrolling through the vast library of step sibling porn and then just picked a funny one. We ended up turning it off before we even had sex because it was so dumb lol.
My partners logic is “sex is better when we’re having fun”
We make it
We really don’t (but would like to). My wife reads literotica. Sometimes I ask her to read it while I go down on her or finger her and suck nipples.