I 35m was married a few months ago to my sunningly beautiful wife 48F..

But lately do to our past, we’re just not connecting. Everything seems fake and it’s like we’re just existing to take care of what we need to, to survive.

I miss when we were connected intimately. We’d talk about stuff and laugh a lot.

Now it’s like we’re just waiting for the other one to betray us somehow. Like we’re waiting for a sucker punch to come flying in from the back any minute.

There is no trust.

This woman is amazing, and I don’t want to let her go if the real “Us” is salvageable.

But I’m running out of steam.

Any ideas on how to get my wife to fall in love with me again?

I can feel myself gaining distance and going numb. I just miss her. TLDR

2 comments

  1. Be purposeful in your planning. Arrange intimate dates, group dates, meet ups, make dinner, do chores, go to the gym together, pay bills, invest in your retirement, find things to do to help make her life easier, buy or plant flowers, write love letters and notes, send them to her, etc.

    Happiness and love aren’t found. They are created. Make her feel loved and safe with you. Sparks fade. You gotta feed that fire.

  2. Hi man, I am sorry that I will go off-topic, but could you shine some light on why you are dating so much older woman? Is it your preference, or you don’t care about age and you just found the one and you wouldn’t care if she was younger?

    My long term girlfriend is 2 years older and I feel like that’s a maximum if I consider that we have to think of having kids/being on the same path career-wise.

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