I’m 22 years old and trying to figure out a way to communicate with people other than my few close friends and started to get frustrated. I have tried to go a lot of events, camps and hobby groups but never felt i am part of their group, i really want to have fun with people and whenever i see them enjoying each other, opening themselves to eachother having deep conversations my heart gets broken because i cant have that with anybody other than my 2 best friends. I really cant figure out what causes this. I cant find anything to talk about, i get bored and not really interested in the things they talk about(not saying i am too good for them i also think this is a problem about me). I dont have fun the way they do. I get their jokes but dont find them funny and cant make those kind of jokes when i try. I just sit in silence after trying few times and they jsut start to assume i am shy and introverted person and i have nothing to talk about. I have things to talk about but i dont have things to talk with them. Even if we interested in the same things i dont talk those things the way they do. Believe me i dont think i am better than them i just really want to have fun with people and have bounds with some people.
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It starts with being able to express yourself better, allowing people to see your True Self in a more positive way, and feeling comfortable breaking down the barriers that exist between you and other people. Here’s an article I wrote to get you started:
###[Can Awkwardness Be Cured?](https://www.reddit.com/r/CPRForYourSocialLife/comments/12uss2o/can_awkwardness_be_cured/)
It just takes time. It’s because they have spent a long time together with each other. Try looking for other new members of those groups because they’ll be more approachable and it’ll also make things more balanced between you and the main group.