I am a white 28 (M) who has tried going on dates with several women. I have tried going on dates with some I have known since high school but they refuse to hold hands with me because I have a little bit of hair on my arms. They make a “gawking face” when they see my arms. They don’t like the fact that I have the ability to grow hair on my arms and legs. I have also tried dating women and they refused to kiss me that said it’s gross that my face is rough and I have the ability to grow facial hair. I don’t have a beard at all and I shave every day but after a few hours the hair on my face will start to grow and my face feels rough. I see men with facial hair on the street having girls friends. I don’t know if I have bad luck or if 99% of women refuse to date me because I have hair on my body. One time when I was 26 I was talking to a girl who was 25. She said she didn’t like me because I’m too old then she started dating a teenager. I am thinking that most women are just attractive to high school aged men and I’m getting too old to date women. it’s going to be a major challenge trying to meet someone who will accept how I look like.
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I don’t know what dating pool you have been fishing at, but I would try a different pool. I am (33F) and I am white and I don’t care about body hair, as long as you shower before you get stinky. Facial hair- kind of have more of an opinion? But only if it is too long and unkept looking, or unflattering to their style? But that is a personal preference of what I am attracted to. Scruffy facial hair is fine, goatee is fine, clean shaven is fine, mustaches…. Probably a no? I haven’t met someone with a mustache man that I was like oh man YOU ARE 🔥. Usually I feel like creepy uncle vibes with mustache men. But everyone is different! I know girls who likely mountain men, with full beards and long hair. And I know girls that like super clean cut guys. Trust me, there are girls out there who don’t care 🤷🏼♀️ I would change the bait or gosh somewhere else haha
Take it easy, wolfman. Lots of women like hairy dudes. I’m hairless for the most part (except I have a decent beard) and it’s turned a few women off. Not everyone is for everyone and I think you’re making too much out of it based on a few bad experiences.
I dont think white women in particular dont like hair on men. East asian women Ive found often comment you should shave if you have facial hair, especially if they grew up in Asia.
I don’t mean to laugh but this is hilarious 🤣
I don’t know what women you have come across, but what you are saying sounds really odd. How much body hair you like really comes down to personal preference. I am sure you have a preference about what amount of body hair you like on a woman.
My boyfriend has a beard that is short and well kept, I do not mind it. I think his beard makes him more handsome, but I would not like it if he grew it long or if it was unkept. He keeps most of his hair naturally as how it grows, except his beard. He does naturally not have any chest or back hair, which I personally really like.
I think more women nowadays are into minimal hair on men than compared to maybe 30 years ago, but most women do not prefer a man completely hairless and shaven everywhere. But honestly, if that is what some women prefer, that is fair enough. It is personal preference. And if most men are allowed to have it as a personal preference that women should be shaven and hairless everywhere, women can have the same standard for men, if this is their preference.
I think the fact that u make Chewbacca noises doesn’t help
I would recommend being yourself. If you want hair have hair, if you want to shave then shave but do it for yourself not some chick.
Glad I’m old and didn’t have to deal with this
I’m of Mediterranean descent and have arm hair. I have literally never had this experience with a woman. Last woman I dated said she liked hairier guys. Like guys who have chest hair
28 is old?? I’m so confused. I’m a white woman and I actually like hairy guys. If they don’t have a hairy chest I’m disappointed.
I’m as white as mashed potatoes and I love me a man with a stubble on his face, and I’d find it weirder if you didn’t have hair on your arms.
I think you are very much overthinking, and definitely generalizing. I am 27F and my italian partner is as hairy as can be. I have never met anyone who genuinely has an issue with body hair. looks like majority of the women in the comments here don’t care either. It’s a simple preference.
I also wouldn’t be surprised if you are over exaggerating a little bit.
> they don’t like the fact that I have the ability to grow hair on my arms and legs
majority of the human population has “the ability to grow hair” so I highly doubt these exact words were said to you.
Uh… how old are these women? I’m 33 and I love men with beards and hairy chests. I’ll even do a bit of back hair if it’s not out of control.
Biggest issue is hygiene – it’s much easier to be hairy and stinky so gotta be thorough in the shower, deodorant and light cologne.
🙋♀️ I’m a white woman and beards/facial hair are my absolute weakness. Also love body hair on a guy, it’s hot. I think you’ve just had some bad experiences, or maybe there’s something else about you these women’s re reacting to other than your hair.