What was the reason why you turned someone down that asked you on a date, and what could’ve they done for you to say yes?

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1. Because I wasn’t interested. There’s been multiple reasons behind that, but there’s nothing the individual could have done in the moment to remedy it. I was already in a relationship, I wasn’t attracted to them, I didn’t want to date anyone, I didn’t like them as a person… All sorts of reasons. And there’s nothing to be done about it.

2. I wasn’t attracted to them / interested in dating them. There is nothing they could have done, because attraction is either there or it’s not.

3. Nothing! Not a damn thing! Don’t understand, why many refuse to accept, that women often don’t feel like being bothered with others, period!

4. I have a good radar for people who believe that ‘if I say / do the right thing, she will date / fuck me.’

   It’s a transactional and immature view on relationships. I don’t want anything to do with someone like that.

5. Many reasons.
   Not attracted to them, we aren’t compatible, didn’t feel any chemistry, they aren’t interesting to me, they don’t make me laugh etc..

   I go with my gut and nothing a person do can change that. Also, I want someone who is authentic anyways, so wouldn’t want them to change a damn thing.

6. I wasn’t interested. There’s nothing they can do to change that, and in fact any further pushing will only make me even less interested.

7. Many reasons. One I’ll share with you right now is that I turn everyone down who believes they can turn my No into a Yes.

8. When I say no to someone asking for a date it’s because I’m not interested—for various reasons that may or may not have anything to do with the person asking.

   I’ll say no when I’m in a relationship, don’t have time for dating/other priorities right now or I’m not interested in dating that person specifically.

   There is nothing that person could’ve done differently to change my mind.

9. I found his name in court records for stalking and domestic violence. There was absolutely nothing he could have done to make me say yes.

10. I wasn’t interested by them nor for more than platonic and nothing could had made me change it to a yes.

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12. Because I wasn’t into them. There’s nothing someone can do about that.

13. I didn’t want to go out with them. Nothing they could have done at that point could have changed that.

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