What is an ugly truth you struggled to come to terms with in therapy?

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1. Anger isn’t my enemy. It may even be my best friend.

2. Size matters.

3. I will always suffer from depression and I will have to act like I don’t have it

4. I’m a big reason why my past relationships have failed.

5. that the coping mechanisms i developed during my dysfunctional childhood sabotage nearly everything in my adulthood! hooray!

6. Who the hell goes to therapy these days when we have social media for free.

7. I deserve to be alone

8. I got into relationships with people who were familiar but emotionally damaging.

   I ignored (or embraced) their red flags because they emulated my parents.

   I was trying to heal my childhood by attempting to get these doppelgangers to see my worth.

   If I could convince one asshole to treat me like someone who mattered, I would feel like I did with them what I couldn’t get my folks to do.

9. I’m going to be alone forever. I’ve always wanted a partner but whatever women like I don’t got. It kills me everyday because everyone around me has it but I don’t and I’ve always wanted a family or just someone to actually love and care about me. I’d doubt I’m going to make it to 25 years old.

10. that no amount of therapy can fix what’s wrong with me.

11. That therapy is useles, just like all the “help” resourses, people will only care if you pay them a lot, a lot of money (so private doctor), and even that is not a guarantee.

12. I’m not the good person I thought I was, and I actively need to work on changing myself if I ever want to be

13. That I was born lacking strong emotions or empathy for others except for animals and nature

14. Not so much anger as dissatisfaction with myself and others. Very impatient. It got me this far.

15. My jealousy of wanting what others don’t have is what’s causing me not only to envy everyone but also makes me look very unapproachable to the point I can’t hold long term friendships because of it.

16. You can do all the right things and still lose.

17. That I’m the common denominator in my life, and all my problems are my own doing. So I can either continue to wallow in self pity and excuses, or I can man the fuck up, and change my life/legacy. So I did that.

18. You never fully get over trauma. You learn to live with it. Or as my therapist says you “make space for it”

19. I’m at a constant conflict between being understanding of the situation my mother was in, and being pissed because I deserved better.

    I have yet to come to terms with it

    Sometimes I wish I wasn’t so understanding of the situation, because it feels like it would be easier to hate her. But I love her, and she’s gotten better, it just doesn’t change how much damage she caused before.

20. That my crazy ex had a habit of “therapy manipulation” and could work magic to poison the therapist against anyone before the therapist had a chance to talk to any one else. Divorced that sadistic hag. Gents: look the hell out for narcissists and borderlines. Do your research and make them all sign a damned prenup no matter how they bitch about it.