I’ve been seeing this guy for about 7 weeks. Earlier this week we discussed not seeing others and figuring out where we fit together in each others lives. I put the ball in his court and told him I wasn’t willing to keep seeing someone at the levels of vulnerability and closeness we have been sharing if they were still seeing others. And I was kind about it. I told him we could back away and not do this if he didn’t want it. I made sure to let him know there was no pressure, but that I had reached a boundary.
The next day he called and said he had deleted a dating app and that what we had was special, and he wanted to cultivate that. He didn’t say anything about deleting bumble though, and I did check and he still had it.
Literally 4 days later he drops off the map, and I don’t hear from him for 36+ hrs. Said he was camping. He called, we chatted, it was cute. But my intuition told me something was off.
Low and behold his bumble location was updated, and he was 4hrs south of where he said he was.. it made me sick to my stomach and obviously I couldn’t sleep. I tossed and turned.. midnight rolled around and I couldn’t help but peek. Location still 4hrs away from where he said he was. 4am I woke up again and his location had updated to his home city….
So, how suspicious is this? And how do you handle this scenario? I don’t want to seem like the asshole for being curious, and trusting my intuition which was right.
Do you just let this man go and move on because trust is now broken pretty early on? Do you just slow fade into the distance and not say anything about the lie?
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Honestly, the entire situation is pretty suspicious and I would assume he’s cheating on you and said he’d delete the dating app just so you wouldn’t be as suspicious of him
The fact that he broke your trust so early into the relationship just goes to show that there probably isn’t a point in dragging it on any longer, but that of course depends on whether or not you want to find out the reason as to why he lied, and what exactly he was doing.
Who knows what circumstances there were, and that’s not to say that what he did wasn’t wrong, but there are rare occasions where there could be more to the story.
You may just want to wait till he returns and drop subtle questions about his camping trip to see how he reacts. Give him the opportunity to be honest with you one last time, and if he continues to lie, then you might as well end it for good.