Women with low libidos and in long term relationships, how do you go about having sex on a regular basis when you don’t feel like it?

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1. I don’t. Why would anyone who professes to love me be interested in fucking me when I’m not interested in it?

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3. My libido fluctuates quite heavily which can be difficult for my husband to understand because there’s no “outward” rhyme or reason. I communicate with my husband my wants and needs. (If I’m in the mood for one thing, but not another for example…) I also read a lot of romance books during my funks. I also keep him in the loop with my cycle as there are clear patterns with my sex drive depending on where I am with my cycle.

   I also just use my voice. If I’m not in the mood, I tell my husband “not tonight” and that’s enough.

4. Libido changes with cycles and during those lower periods of time I remembered that I love him and understanding that he needs physical connection as well as emotional connection to maintaina strong bond between us. Then more often that not, I find myself in the mood once I’m in the thick of it.

   Also telling him “I’m not feeling it so you’re going to have to help me a little more than usual to get in the mood.” And he was always more than happy to oblige.