Wife (36F) things I (M40) cheated…or something

I have beenmarried to my wife for 11 years. She is furious, again, because she believes I am lying about…something…with a coworker. So we use teams at work, and I received a message from the social media manager with a picture I took of my daughter at a work event with the comment, “look at that sass.”

I hadn’t seen it. I uploaded the photos to our communications server and placed that photo specifically on my cpu and phone.

She asked me the other night where I got that photo from. I told her from myself. I took it and placed it on my phone. She said I was lying. That she has evidence a coworker sent it to me. I go who. She says so and so on teams. I check it and go “oh, I didn’t see this.” But I’m lying and there are deleted messages she says. I go, what deleted messages, but it doesn’t matter. I am lying. I still don’t understand what the issue is. I think it’s her trying to insinuate infidelity. She claims it isn’t. I ask her if she saw that photo on the server, and sent it to me with that comment, what exactly I’d the problem. Why are you so angry? No answer other than it doesn’t matter, you are a liar.

She has done that before, but never says “you’re cheating” outright. At every place I’ve worked she’s been weird in regards to my relationships with women coworkers. Also, I don’t make work friends. No hanging out or anything. Just work.

So she claims we are through. We’ve had problems lately. Arguing and letting small things become big things. She said we should do therapy. Which I suggested some time ago, but she said it’s only for coparenting, because we’re done.

I will add that I used to lie to her about finances alot. We were poor and she was in school. I didn’t want her to worry about bills and things she couldn’t do anything about, so I didn’t tell her I was postponing a payment, or that we didn’t have the money to pay for x. But since we’ve come up in life I haven’t.