How many middle-aged men have close female friends

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1. My father has plenty but it’s because of Asian culture, we just grow up with people that aren’t related but we consider them family.

2. Many of us do.

   My best friend is my wife.

3. I do, bestie is female, majority of friends are too

4. I have 3 close female friends. Two are exes and one is a neighbor.

5. I have at least 4. One I met here on Reddit, she flew across the country and stayed with me even.

   Women are great to have as friends. Just gotta get past the “I need to fuck her” part of our neanderthal lizard brains.

6. I’m a bit passed middle age, 67, but I’ve had a female best friend since the 2nd grade. An older kid was picking on Cheryl and I told him to leave her alone. He didn’t, so I punched him in the face. (Dad started teach my brother and I how to box when we each turned 5.)

   I’ve also become close with wifey’s best friend, Roxie. She was always coming to me for “guy advice” so I got to learn a lot about her.

   Wifey doesn’t have a problem with either. In fact, her a Cher-Cher have become very good friends.

7. I have many female friends. My oldest friend is a woman. I’ve known her for 35 years. We’re not as close as we once were but she can call in a favor anytime.

8. I have a close female friend, but she’s also my wife’s friend. She’s not my best friend, but we do help each other move, so we’re pretty close.

9. not many of us.

   i have many women peers and colleagues. we have mutually friendly, respectful relationships, but they’re mostly professional.

   i’m basically “friends” with my wife’s friends, and i’m fairly close with one of my nabes (she’s also a therapist). but we aren’t like, hanging on each other crying our eyes out, or spending all night together doing stuff. not unless my wife is there too, because they’re more her friends than mine.

   my wife is my only bff these days.

10. I have several. Some are single, some are married/attached and some are friends from my childhood days.

11. I’m 36 in a committed relationship, and almost all my friends are women. No issues or drama.

12. Zero.

    I don’t consider my wife my “female best friend”. She’s my wife.

    I have a handful of close male friends.

    I do have female friends otherwise, I just wouldn’t consider them close friends or best friends.

13. I am pretty sure I ha e about 2/3rds female over male close friends at this point

14. One of my closest friends is a female. We click together like legos but not in a sexual way. We’re not each other’s physical or relationship type. She calls me with her boy problems and I call her to shoot the shit while I’m driving. We have dinner together once a month. We go do a different activity every 4/6 weeks as well.

15. Nearly all my friends are women. I have one male bestie in a tight circle of four male friends, and the rest of my friends are women.

    Its always been like that for me; one or two girlfriends, one male best friend, and a bunch of close female friends and companions. In fact, the male friend group was an intentional exception because I felt I needed to round myself out a bit more in terms of my typical friend groups. Theyre awesome, and I love them to death.

    But otherwise, Ive always felt more comfortable making and being friends with women. Like, ever since I can remember.

16. I do. Actually an ex-girlfriend. Thankfully, we were both mature enough to see that although we liked each other, love each others company, we were going different directions in our respective lives. Rather than end the entire relationship, we broke up and remain great friends. Can tell her anything. Not gonna lie, I still love her – just not romantically. More like a sister or cousin now (not when we were dating.) And, I wouldn’t leave my current girlfriend for anything or anyone.

    So yeah, ex-girlfriend turned best friend for the last 11 years or so.

17. I’ve always gotten along better with females. Easier to talk to and open up to.

18. I have 2 best friends and one is female. I’ve known her for over 30 years and we try to go to lunch once a week

19. I love the company of women it’s such a great thing, so that’s what I pursue mainly on Facebook. It’s actually pretty easy. I just joke around a lot and just keep on talking nonstop making jokes – – a lot of NER jokes but if you have a low threshold and can tolerate a b level partner. The fish are out there.

20. I am close friends with a Woman. She is very even keeled (emotionally) and is unafraid to give me practical advice.

    Gentleman, such Women are rare, and should be protected at all costs.

21. nope

22. I have a couple, but they’re close to me because they’re close to my wife. So probably not an answer to the question you’re asking.

23. About half of my friends group are. Grew up on a small island (population about 20k) so if you cut out everyone of the opposite gender you really cut down on the people with the same interests to socialise with.

24. I have more female close friends than male.

25. Most of my friends are women. And no, none of them are FWB.

    All my male friends are family members.

    I find that most guys want to get drunk, stoned, or chase women, even at middle age. I prefer to hang out and talk. So I fit in better with the women

26. None that I talk to a lot, but then again, there’s only a handful of guys that were best friends for years that I talk to yearly.

27. I’m am married to a woman and I have have had several close friends that were women over the years.

    From the start my wife and I have always been very open about our relationship and relationships to others. We don’t feel threatened by each other having friends of the opposite gender, etc.

    For the last few years we have been ethically non-monogamous so, it’s even less of an issue. I’m not attempting to turn my friends who are women into sexual partners either, it’s just the way I’ve always been.

    That being said, my number of close friends who are women has dropped dramatically since my “just out of college years” faded behind me and I’m solidly in my “married with a house and a career” phase of life. But I have a few. ☺️

    To answer the second part of your question, one of my women friends is a colleague who works in the same field and organization as me. We have developed a friendship over the years where we talk about pretty much everything. Our relationships, work drama, family drama, how we are doing mentally,etc.

28. The only ones I have are the few I had in college

29. I do. Aside from my wife, mostly old coworkers

30. My dad was middle aged in the past and he had always had a good number of friends of various genders. Also assuming I dont somehow piss away my current friendships I’ll also be middles aged in about a decade with some close female friends.

    I’d describe these as any other platonic friendships I have, much like the ones I have with my male friends that I’m not particularly attracted to.

    It’s really not that hard to make friends, you just be nice to people and it kind of happens on it’s own.

31. Me, most people in my circle are women.

32. No

33. None. Though tbf I don’t have guy friends either.

34. I have a number of them. They’ve been a real boon in terms of emotional support and I don’t exaggerate at all when I say I don’t know what my life would be like without them.

35. I’m in my mid 30s and have a very good / best female friend for about ten years. We meet every now and then, talk for hours, cook, support each other when we move, when there are family issues, etc.

    Just recently I’ve told her that I’m going to marry my long time gf (who she also met several times). I’ve invited her and her bf to the wedding. Since then it’s basically silence and I couldn’t dare to ask what’s causing that so far because I’m scared anout the answer.

36. I have a bunch bc I’m not trying to bed any of them:)

37. I think most people here are confusing a friend with an acquaintance.

    Question 1: Should you drop your friend for your SO?

    Question 2: If no, how is it your SO if your friend is more important?

    Question 3: Can you discuss in full detail with emotions the experiences with your SO, with your “friend”.

    Question 4: Who has more time for you?

    Question 5: Who do you have more time for?

38. None here

    The few “platonic” female friendships I’ve had over the years, would go south when the woman started to get feelings or wanted things that I didn’t reciprocate

39. I’m not middle aged (28) but I have a female best friend that has become literal family to me over the years. I have known her for 10+ years her and my significant other are great friends with each other and her husband is one of my childhood best friends that i introduced to her and we have a large friend group. I would drop anything to help her out should she need it.