First things first: english isn’t my mother tongue so I apologize if some statements are confusing.
So I found his social media post months ago but told him about it only now. I don’t want to think he’s been doing bad stuffs behind my back but seeing that post just gave me something to doubt him. I don’t like this feeling because he said he feels insulted when I doubt him when he gave no reason to cheat.
I just confronted him today and I’m not satisfied with his response. It’s either I could tell he’s lying or desperately making an excuse or I’m just overthinking things. He said he was just inquiring and wanted to see if he could afford it but “wasn’t planning on really doing it.” I asked him that IF he could afford it, would he do it, and he said he’d ask for my permission first and stuffs.
Him being massaged by a female isn’t new to me and that was never an issue for me in the first place. What’s an issue for me is that he’s alone in his house, wanting to have a full body massage, and specifically asked for a female. It’s unfair that he wouldn’t allow me to be massaged by a male but thinks it’s okay to consider having a home service massage with a female.
He already said he’s sorry, but I don’t know why I’m not satisfied with it. It feels like he’s only saying sorry because that’s the only correct words to say. We’re not talking right now and I feel like he’s just thinking of a strategy on how to excuse himself tomorrow. I don’t know what to feel, honestly. I was scared to confront him about this because he might be more careful in the future. And if he really does have an affair, it’ll be harder for me to catch him.
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Or you could just breakup with him and not have to worry about his shenanigans anymore. He was looking for a happy ending from whatever woman and yeah no no one posts that without the intention of getting the service, what would be the point in posting ? He’s cheating on you his lack of success doesn’t matter.
You could both learn how to do it yourselves and give each other massages. It could be a lot of fun.
Nothing you presented shows any cheating, only your mistrust and insecurities.
I personally choose to go to a spa for massages, but most people I know prefer in-home services. Similarly most of the men I know primarily request women massage therapists, and the women I know usually request make therapists. So I look at your post and am wondering if you have something else giving you this suspicion…
Unless you have more “evidence” of wrongdoing, you absolutely accused your boyfriend of trying to cheat with zero evidence and he has every right to be pissed at you.