I started dating this guy about 2 weeks ago and he’s great super smart and nice. But he likes to FaceTime a lot which is totally fine but he’ll FaceTime me just to put his headset on and talk to his friends on his game… its a little weird and awkward and he’ll do it like as soon as I answer the Facetimes. How should i let him know it bothers me?
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Hang up.
He’s doing it to tie you up and keep tabs on you. If you’re on FaceTime with him, you can’t be going places and doing things without him.
Just be straight with him. “Hey, I’m not interested in being on FaceTime while you play with your friends as I have other things I can be doing so I’m going to hang up now. Talk to you later!” I bet you any money he will get angry. I’m 99.99% sure it’s a control thing.
Also, just because a guy likes to FaceTime, text, chat or call a lot, doesn’t mean you have to even if you don’t mind. It’s good to set the boundary at the very start that you have your own life and aren’t going to be available to him every second of every day. Even if you aren’t doing anything but reading a book or watching Netflix, time alone is essential for growth and self-discovery.
Straight up tell him.