Me (F20) and my ex (M23) broke up a few months ago and haven’t spoken in a month. We were on and off for about a year. He was an avoidant and I have an anxious attachment style which was obviously a terrible match up. He hurt me so deeply and would often block me on everything out of nowhere without an explanation. After that I felt I had to tiptoe around and hide my emotions because I was scared I would set him off again. I really miss him but I don’t understand why because he hurt me so much. Why do I miss someone who only brought negativity into my life and how can I get over it?
TL;DR: why do I miss my ex if he hurt me?
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The first part of getting over it is when you realize you’re angry at being treated so badly by someone you loved. That they didn’t see the value in you and appreciate your worth. Then you can pick yourself up and get on with life. It’s not easy. Sometimes it can take as long as a year.
It’s because you know it was just a mismatched attachment style. As I say to myself, shit happens, just need to acknowledge it and move on. Have you seen Crazy Ex-Girlfriend show, the scene where *spoiler alert* Greg sings his goodbye song to Rebecca? It’s comforting for this situation.