My (21f) brother (18m) is getting creepier and creepier towards me. Here’s three examples that happened with in the last 24 hours alone. I took him with me to buy a desk yesterday Incase I needed help moving it, unfortunately he was the only one available. While in the furniture store a guy looks at us and he turns to me and saids and I quote “hey, you think that guy thought we were dating?” I didn’t even know how to respond and just ignored him. On the way back home I stopped by tj max looking for a chair and I couldn’t decide, again there was a by stander and he saids “can you believe her?” And the guy laughs and they have a conversation like they’re talking about their wifes. Ew. And again just now was the worst. he brought up my guy friend that recently came to visit and said he was jealous, my mistake was asking why and he saids “I y’all fucked, sad he got to before me” I was visibly taken aback, and then he follows up with “chill chill I’m just joshin.” I told my mother about my concerns and she said he’s joking, boys will be boys, I’m being uptight. I don’t believe that, I believe I’m living with a predator and there’s other weird things he’s done and I get the same response pretty much every time and it just gets worse.
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Behind every rapist, incestuous pervert etc. there’s almost always a family that downplays or supports them.
I recommend you put some distance between you and your family.
Perhaps you are correct, or perhaps you’re over analyzing this. Either way, keep a distance between you and your family, or at least your brother
Yeah,,, definitely some favouritism going on there. I would straight up have a serious talk with your brother and say this is is last warning or you will be speaking/interacting with him as little as possible. If your family won’t protect you, protect yourself.
Whether he’s joking or not, if it’s bothering you then he should stop and apologize at once or else u need to cutt off any interactions with him.
Tell him “it’s not funny. It’s actually disgusting that you even think about incest. What’s wrong with you?”
Watch him light up, then deflate. If that doesn’t stop him, maybe a light smack on the back of the head will. My friend’s brother needed to get his shit rocked by her BF before he’d stop making comments or trying to record her. He went to therapy for a year before talking to her again. After 4 years, they’re finally getting along again.
Tell him that real life is different than porn and also that he should cut down on incest porn.
That is really creepy. I would recommend avoiding spending time with him, especially alone. Its better safe then sorry. Maybe start keeping track of everything he says/does thats creepy and show your parents after a while to try and convince them that this is serious.
time to cut them all off if they wont take it seriously.
Knew a guy who talked about women like they were objects at twenty and at forty he was still doing it. His friends said it was because his fiancee dumped him and he cherished her. When his friends daughters became teens, I asked do you feel comfortable having him talk about your daughters like he does about all women because he will. They said he wouldn’t do that, they could be his daughters and then he did. They stopped defending him, but it had to become personal before the bro code was broken.
Making repeated references to and jokes about dating/fucking your sister is absolutely not a normal “Boys will be boys” thing. Most boys are grossed out by the thought of fucking their sister. I would definitely start recording any convos you have with him and avoid being alone with him at all. This is very disturbing
If my son was saying these things I would have a long talk with him and get him some therapy. However, what was your relationship like previously? Is it possible he knows it bothers you and just wants to push your buttons?(no pun intended)
those inclinations rarely come from nowhere…sad to say. How can you get away from these people??
Guess what kind of porn he watches…
Let all his guy friends know he likes sisters even his own and the shot they’ll give him will cure him of his delusions pretty quick.
Ah give the guy a chance.
I’m sorry this is happening to you. It absolutely is not your fault in any way. He is a predator and he is unsafe.
Do you have a good, solid lock on your bedroom door? That’s step number 1. Make sure you are sadder when you go to sleep at night. Do you have an exit plan for moving out on your own? That’s step 2.
Talk to a trusted friend who can help.
my dad always said weirdly sexual things my whole life and one time violently attacked me when i was 20 yrs old and i have ptsd lol so ur not wrong to be worried ab these strange behaviours. dont let ur family gaslight u into thinking ur the issue. ur brother is acting insane
Unpopular opinion here but this reads like BS – if anyone would care to look at OP’s post history, they’ll see that OP is an attention seeking fantasist with a very, very vivid imagination.
Tell him mom’s the one to go to if he’s looking for a female family member who is apparently okay with incest.
Literally every time he’s says something weird trying to be casual about it or act like it’s funny, look at him and say in an authoritarian volume “Incest isn’t funny. There is nothing normal or funny about you talking or joking about incest.” Incest is a buzz word so saying it amidst polite company might help call attention to his behavior, since he seems to feel comfortable being a pervert in public.