Me (25m) She (22f) I knew her since March 2022; she’s my classmate at University. She approached me first, and since then we saw each other regularly, I was interested in her because she seemed like a really cool and fun girl, but only that. She even wanted to come to my house like a month after we met, but I already felt in love with another girl so I just say something like yup maybe one day, and she said that I seemed like a cool guy and wanted to know me better.

But from April to November I had a relationship with this other girl (she wasn’t from Uni) and we broke up in November. At the end of December I started to talk more with her and Invited her to come to my house, and she responded with I was waiting for your invitation, I said come and we can swim at the pool and talk about life. A couple of days after she came to my house at night; we drank alcohol, we swim at the pool and talk about life, all of this for almost 4 hours.

But the first thing she said to me was Do you have a girlfriend? Why you broke up with your last girlfriend? And so on, she also said if I still talk with my ex and I said no and that I blocked her from every social media and that I have 0 contact with her and that I don’t miss her, she said I had a lot of willpower. We talked a lot about sex and our sexual life, I told her that after I broke up with my ex I didn’t have an active sexual life and she ended up saying something like oh you should enjoy more your sexual life and so on. She even asked me if I like to have sex without condom, and I said I’ve never try it and she said would you like to try it? I said maybe, if the girl uses a strong contraceptive. In that moment she showed me her arm and said look I have contraceptive implant and then she starting talking about it and so on. She said that at the beginning of the year she ended an almost 10 year relationship and that over the year she already slept with a couple of guys and tried to have a love relationship with one of them but didn’t work out so she decided to enjoy her sexual life freely from now on.

We talked about a lot of stuff and she said she was surprised with me and that she liked talking with me and that I was a very interesting guy. After all this chat she said she had to go to her house and she went. I also told her at the end that she can come again tomorrow and responded maybe I can come again. She came back again the next day at night.

This time we did almost the same thing we did yesterday but for 2 hours because she came at like 2 am. She said to me again oh you should enjoy your sex life and similar stuff. But this time when she said she was leaving because she was feeling sleepy I gave her a hint that I wanted to kiss her before she go and she said only friends, I see you as a friend and I was going so fast and that we just saw each other alone twice. I automatically felt down and she noticed and said oh don’t worry nothing happen, we won’t stop talking because of this and she hugged me; she said you still don’t know exactly what are you feeling and that I just recently ended my last relationship. She went out and said she gonna text me whenever she arrived at her house (it was 4 am) and she did it. She also said sorry If was tough with you, the things at the end where kind of dumb, let’s not let this break our friendship, I really really like to talk to you and that she never felt uncomfortable with me, even in that part where I wanted to kiss her. I responded with yeah no problem and stuff like that. We are still in contact and did as nothing happened and whenever I text her she responds super fast. How should I proceed from on? I want to sleep with her, if she gives me the opportunity to do it of course, and maybe be a couple if that idea comes to the table, but I don’t know if that is possible after what happened. I want to know what you all think about this situation.

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  1. >She even asked me if I like to have sex without condom, and I said I’ve never try it and she said would you like to try it?

    You’re already out, OP. Were you waiting for her to send you a notarized letter saying “I want to have sex with you” or something?

    This person came to your place on BACK TO BACK NIGHTS and was offering to have sex with you yet you didn’t make a move. So now she knows you’re not “that guy” that she wants to “explore her sex life” with and you’re out.

    If you happen to get her back to your place again, make sure you make a move but I doubt it.

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