I’ve been with my partner for 3 years. Sometime I think we’d both be happier if we were with different people. However, we’re not unhappy per se. I know this goes against every romantic instinct, but I’m curious to hear of any positive stories of people who just settled with what they had? Thanks!

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  1. I have a story, but it’s not positive. I settled. Better to be safe than alone, right? But, no. I couldn’t stand it eventually.

  2. People get married for all kinds of reasons, and settling is not such a bad one. If the partner is not physically or intentionally emotionally abusive it could work. All marriages have their challenges because we are all just imperfect people doing the best we can. In my own two marriages (I have been married 35 years total), I feel like the hard times are 5% worse, but the good times are 10% better.

  3. I don’t know OP, it sounds like you’re setting yourself up for failure. Isn’t the figure that half of marriages end in divorce?
    I’m sure your spouse wouldn’t like to hear that you’re settling for him, and he’ll get screwed in the divorce through alimony.
    Not to mention- you can’t really be half way into marriage, so either you become fully committed to it ( and loose a bunch of time if it still fails ) or back out now, but there’s no use in having the foot in the door and being married while wanting to be single.
    Are you rushing things because you want kids?

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