I wish I was kidding.
So my bf (31m) recently introduced me (27f) to the netflix documentary Drive to Survive. As any other bored millennium tired of rewatching The Office for the 100th time and still sad about the fact that Modern Family left Netflix in my country, I was very happy to finally find a show worth binging.
It is an understatement to say I got completely hooked on the sport and the lives of the drivers. So after spending a couple of days at home going through all 4 seasons, I am now the self declared biggest McLaren fan. And Renault. And RedBull. Basically anything and everything that Daniel Ricciardo does. Did you guys know he launched a wine bottle??? Thank me later.
Anyways, point is: Ricciardo = celebrity crush. Completely platonic. Low key innocent (?). Like, it will never happen.
Because I have been looking at so much F1 content lately, IG’s algorithms keep bombing me with even more content everyday. I did like some of the pictures, honestly not a big deal IMO – no shirtless pics or anything like that.
Not exactly sure how my bf noticed this change of pattern in my social media usage but I did like a picture of Ricciardo in front of him tbf. After this, he started acting all insecure, asking a lot of non sense questions and eventually brought it up when he was a bit drunk.
I did apologize if that made him uncomfortable and said i wouldn’t do it anymore but the more I think about it the more ridiculous it sounds… Imola GP is this Sunday and we had plans to watch it together but now I am afraid it would make him “uncomfortable” (????????)
Tldr – bf upset I liked Daniel Ricciardo’s pics on insta
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He’s afraid you’re gonna leave him for Daniel Ricciardo. Perfectly reasonable.
I’m just here to see what responses pop up on this.
Sounds like he’s insecure. Is he typically a jealous guy?
Your boyfriend is upset about something stupid. I got my wife into Les Miserables and The Greatest Showman. I can tell she has a celebrity crush on Hugh Jackman, but I understand it to be platonic. She later moved on from it to more recent shows we watch. It’s all good fun and I like how she takes interest in the things I introduce to her since she grew up most of her life in the Philippines.
> Ricciardo = celebrity crush. Completely platonic. Low key innocent (?). Like, it will never happen.
Dude, just because your chances are next to nil doesn’t mean it’s “platonic”!
You’ve probably been obsessing about it / him for a while now in front of your boyfriend, and your reasoning for it being okay is that “it’ll never happen” – – but newsflash, that doesn’t make it any less disrespectful to your partner.
You obsess over another man and claim its fine because ‘it’ll never happen’… his insecurities are warranted
Your BF is being absurd. I’m a low key Lewis Hamilton fan and my husband makes sure to tell me if he is up to something I might have missed.
Being insecure about a public figure just because they happen to have a penis is pathetic (I’m assuming that you would not be unhinged over him following the career & activities of a female athlete?)
Holy Mac and Cheeseballs
Ok I’m not saying what he’s doing is right butttt is there any chance that maybe you’re giving f1 more attention that you are to him?
A 31 year old manchild. Not too uncommon in this day and age.
Tell him to grow a pair.
I had a celebrity crush years ago and had his pics on my screensaver at work. Hubs and I worked together at the time. One of his coworkers asked if it bothered him. His response was “I figure the odds of this guy showing up saying ‘Dude, I’m here for your wife’ are pretty slim so I don’t let it bother me.” So, when he started crushing on Mila Kunis, I told him the same thing applies and I even watch her movies with him.
This has to be a joke, surely ? 😂
So if your BF decided he was suddenly a massive fan of…The New Girl or whatever…and decided his social media needed to see how much he has a crush on the main girl – as a full blown adult man – and started liking her photos everywhere etc, you’d be cool with that?
I can’t blame you. I feel like it’s a requirement to be good looking to be a f1 driver
I think your boyfriend’s not entirely out of line if it’s really obsessive but IMO, a celebrity crush isn’t really bordering on obsessive if it’s not interfering with the relationship, you’re not gushing about them 24/7 or it’s not sexual content. Doesn’t sound like you do any of those, so he should calm down a bit.
I get what you mean by “platonic” too, you probably mean that this isn’t sexual or romantic, more along the lines of “they’re so cool!!!”. Your boyfriend is probably just feeling insecure because that person is likely attractive in addition to being cool.
Pfft. After watching McLaren’s performance this season your BF will realize he has nothing to worry about.
In all seriousness, I guess celebrity crushes are “innocent”, but it does get annoying if you get all “extra” with it. If the only reason it will never happen is because it is impossible, but youd still take the chance if it were possible, then I understand why he’d be upset.
Hmm well for a different perspective on this, I’ve been him before. But it only ever happened to me in one relationship and that’s because it was more about the fact that she wouldn’t touch me no matter what I tried but had no problem watching movies/shows to fawn over one particular actor all day.
Then it makes it seem like I’m jealous over a harmless celebrity crush but really it’s about feeling unwanted. I hope that part of the relationship isn’t a factor for this one but something to think about. from someone who has been on the other side.
your bf has some insecurity issues, and needs to get some help processing them and why he has them
you are little obsessed and turning it around on your bf.
Your boyfriend is immature. I know this not becuase of the behaviour you describe in your post but because of your choice in F1 drivers.
I’m single and I still feel weird and guilty about suddenly fangirling over f1 drivers. Embarrassed Gasly fangirl here.
I get that this can become a problem even if it’s just a normal celebrity thing. I get it from both perspectives. Maybe you could tone it down or let him in on it more? As in, don’t hide anything, don’t disregard his discomfort as irrational jealousy but don’t stop altogether or try to sweep it under the rug either. You could try to have an open conversation about his celebrity crushes, current or former and make it less tense? Laugh a bit together?
It doesn’t have to be a dramatic thing but I think it’s important not to dismiss his feelings here, even if it’s true that he has nothing to worry about. You might as well be fangirling over a cartoon character. Even so it might make him feel inadequate and awkward, especially if you’re supposed to enjoy f1 together. Open and honest conversation with lots of room for understanding and forgiveness is good here. He’s probably embarrassed about feeling jealous.
Celeb crushes are normal. They’re an everyday thing.
But what your partner doesn’t want is to hear how X Y Z can rail you or they could fuck you sideways or how much you absolutely adore them endlessly.
Just because “it won’t happen/ never meet them” doesn’t make it any less irksome or disrespectful. Especially if they don’t look anything like your partner.
I kinda get it, he is my crush out of the F1 crew. I find it flattering when my S/O thinks I hot enough that a celeb would pick me over a supermodel.
That’s a bit childish but it also makes sense because Ricciardo is damn near the perfect man. Did you see him laugh? Shit is so cute.
A crush is not completely platonic lol. Did you think you having a crush on another man would make him feel good? “It will never happen,” is just “I’m only with you because I can’t get with a celebrity.” It’s not innocent.
OP you sound like an annoying asshole, quit being a jerk to your boyfriend.
well unfortunately if you like his pictures, that means youre married to him. So I would be more worried of what your husband thinks about the fact that youve got a boyfriend
Look, to be fair to him, you even admit that “it’ll never happen”, which is a confession, by omission, that you would willingly sleep with Ricciardo given the chance.
He is acting insecure, but you’re also raising a red flag, so I think it’s both of your faults.
If you really would be willing to sleep with Ricciardo given the chance, just let your boyfriend go. Relationships shouldn’t be built on the condition of an if/then statement.
Lol. Man wasn’t even topless and he’s jealous. It’s like me liking a picture of an actor simply posing at their movie premiere. He needs to grow up.
My wife uses Instagram. Both she and I are Lewis Hamilton fans. She likes stuff that he posts (or at least follows him on Instagram). But we’re very comfortable with eachother.
But then again, Daniel Ricciardo does seem like more of a sex symbol (or maybe simply a common celebrity crush) among the drivers. I mean, to be completely honest, that seems like that’s mostly what he has going for him at this point. Great personality, great looks. And Lewis Hamilton really isn’t a poster boy for looks/personality. So yeah, idk. Seems like you’re thoughtful towards your bf, and maybe he’s being a bit jealous. I’m sure there are women celebrities that he secretly thinks are hot.