So I matched with this guy on tinder around 2 months ago. We met once and it went great. We texted each other almost every other day afterwards. We were planning to hangout 2 weeks later. He canceled the day of saying that he felt really sick and “miserable”. He seemed like a really nice and polite guy so I believed him and asked how he was doing 2 days later. He didn’t reply until 10 days later.

At this point I thought he had ghosted me but this is his last text:

Him: “Hey sorry I kept meaning to text you. I got quite sick…I never mentioned anything but I have an autoimmune disorder that makes things like the flu pretty serious. There’s just a lot going on in my life right now personally and health wise…I would have loved to get together with you as you know but I don’t feel right about it with everything going on right now. I’m so sorry! I didn’t mean to ghost or ignore you…I just have been a bit busy dealing with everything and kept thinking I would text you later when I feel up for it but it just became more and more delayed. I think I kept putting it off because I was hoping that I’d just go back to normal and feel great again so we could just get together…I’m sorry tho! please don’t take me not texting as personal or lack of interest”

I obviously felt bad for him and believed him after this paragraph and told him that I’d love to see him whenever he feels better.

**TLDR** : But the problem is that it has been 20 days and he never texted again. Was that paragraph basically a goodbye text? why couldn’t he simply say that he’s not interested? Would it be a problem if I text something like “Hey, how are you doing? you crossed my mind and I thought I’d just check up on you”?

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  1. You have asked us for our advice or opinions and here’s mine; he’s looking for an out. He’s possibly moved on and has decided that you are not as appealing as previously thought.
    This is absolutely no reflection on you but more about his tastes and personality.
    Life is too short for worrying about him; move on and up. Go out and live your best life and you will find your match.
    Be strong, be true to yourself and your values.
    Take care and let us know how you get along.

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