What do people ask you the most? And what do you wish they asked you instead? (people you know and/or those you don’t)

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1. I’m constantly asked if I’m russian lol

2. Would love to never again get asked whether I’m from South or North Korea, or whether I’m Chinese or Japanese or Korean, or why I don’t have children, or if I’d like to hold their child. Idk what I wish people would ask instead. “Fancy some cake and a glass of wine?”

3. I get asked by family members and family friends if I have a boyfriend, which is annoying. I wish people would ask me questions that respected my intelligence

4. What they actually ask: “How tall are you? Where are you from? Could you do XYZ for me?”

   What I wish they asked: “How are you doing? What are your favorite weird topics you never get to tell people about? Do you want to do [something fun]?”

5. I’m asked if I’m gay

6. They always ask if im asian xdd

7. I get asked if both of my parents are black a lot. They are. They just ran out of ink on their way to having four kids.

8. What I and my colleagues can do to help their child.
   Should ask what they can do.

9. Get asked what I do.

   I’d like to be asked about things I enjoy doing, or something more relevant to my personality & interests.

   In my case my job does correlate strongly to my personality & interests but I know it’s not the case for many people and I wish we were all asked more about who we are instead of what we do.

10. My older sister constantly likes to badger me about my love life, why I’m wasn’t actively dating, what my relationship plans are, and so forth so on. I get that from members on my team at school, as well as my aunt. It’s annoying.

    I wish people would ask me about, say, classical music. I would much rather discuss that. Or interesting historical sites and museums to visit.

11. How do I do things/wipe my butt with my long nails (even in this subreddit). I teach jewelry making and other crafting classes. People saw me with their own eyes doing some intricate works with my hands and they still ask if I can do anything with my hands.

    If they actually want to know I don’t mind answering. It’s people asking in this snarky gotcha tone and making assumptions about your life.

12. It’s always either about my dating life or about work.
    Those who are more familiar with me because they know my family or friends are more likely to ask about my dating life. Its know im married and i always wear my ring. I get asked if I want or when I am having kids a lot.

    Those who are complete strangers always ask about my job.

    But I hate these topics because I can’t biologically have children and it stings and I hate talking about work.

    I rather get asked about my hobbies! I am always much more engaged in the conversation when talking about my hobbies or theirs.

13. Why dont you try xyz dieting? Should not ask me anything

14. When I’m going to have children/why I don’t have any. I’m 37 and childfree and not having any BECAUSE I DON’T WANT TO.

    I wish they’d ask me about literally anything else.

15. Why are you always angry? Ugh

16. “When will you get married?”, “your clock is ticking. Didn’t you say want more children?”, “why are you still single?”, “don’t you feel left out because everyone around you is partnered?” 😑

17. How tall I am and if I’m with my sister, if we’re sisters/twins/identical.

18. 34 and childfree by choice. When will you have kids? Or why don’t you have kids ? Or Dosent your husband want kids? Especially from strangers or people I barely know. Like why do you need to know I don’t plan on being your friend. So many people act like it’s a woman’s Duty still or life is not fulfilled without children. And even though I’m 34 people still say you’ll change or it will still happen… eww no don’t assume my life. My choice I made as early as grade school.

19. If my eyes are real. Literally everyone I met and strangers too. I wish they’d ask something interesting or something that makes me think.

20. Who does my tattoos and where.

21. I get asked where my accent is from and how long I’ve lived in my country. When I proceed to say I was born here, they continue to tell me repeatedly I’m lying. Well okay then 🙂

22. Where I’m from because I have olive skin like I told u 20 times in from London 😂

23. I get asked, “How is everything?” a lot, I wish people asked me a more specific question about my day or specific things.

24. At work, I get asked why I’m not performing well.

    I wish someone would ask “what can we do to improve this” without it just being me. I already know the areas in struggling with, and I can’t magically conjure answers.

25. Are you angry? When I’m literally just minding my own business 😑 or are you confused do you need help? Like I have a question mark written on my damn forehead! 😤

26. why are you so sad? / wanna have some money for free?