My friend who I used to talk to daily for hours before has been having issues with accepting I don’t feel like talking that often anymore. I’ve tried to explain to her that I’m depressed and just not in a good place these days and she claims she understands but still feels insecure about our friendship. She has this need to talk and spend time together and told me since it’s online it’s different.
I feel like it’s messed up to add that pressure on someone. She told me she can’t wait forever for me and I don’t know how to respond to that. I don’t want to come off as too mean but I don’t want to feel like I have to put in certain amount of hours so that she doesn’t leave.
We stopped being friends because of this for a month and a half but started talking again. She told me I’m the same as before and for some reason she hoped it would be different? I feel like you don’t need to spend constant time with someone to be good friends.
TL;dr: Friend she wants to talk a lot like before and can’t wait for me forever. I don’t want to due to depression.
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Not your friend, move on. She thought you had some bad days and doesn’t understand Depressionen at all.
So stop being friends. You have incompatible needs in a friendship. It’s unfortunate, but better to go your separate ways than for both of you to be hurt.