Ladies who have asked a guy out, and were turned down, what’s the story?

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1. She said I was too hot for him. She needs a traditional girl friend.

2. He never gave me a straight answer, saying he needed time to decide, basically leaving me in relationship purgatory. I knew it was a no when he went out on a date with another girl like a week later.

3. Girl don’t worry about him. There are plenty of men out there. I have been rejected many times. It takes awhile to find the right one .

4. After having an intimate moment with someone after knowing them for 2-3 years I asked him out to go see a movie and he acted like he was too good for movies. He said “you’re asking me to go see a movie? I only go when I’m in really interested in a movie” I took that as a no and I just said “oh okay” never again will I ask him out. His loss especially being that boring or not suggesting to do something else. Also said he was going to a baby shower of a family member and yet I guess he forgot he had me on IG because he posted he was at the gym and then posted that he was watching Batman. I viewed him as “not even worth it”.

   I’ve been told no plenty of times when I’ve asked someone for their number. I first ask if they are single and if it’s a yes I ask for their number and sometimes I get told no. Other times I’m given a wrong number or once they have mine I’m blocked. After being rejected so many times it starts to not bother me much. The worst that someone can say when you ask them out or anything is no.

   I hope you are doing okay and don’t worry there’s more men out there.

5. I’ve been meaning to ask this guy out. I’m not sure if I should

6. I asked a guy out after reading some pretty clear signs that he was interested. We met during a class and would grab a bite to eat every so often.

   I formally asked him to drinks. It went really well. Then he asked me out. On our second formal date—he told me he felt bad that he was leading me on and he wasn’t looking for anything serious.

   Super weird considering he said yes to the first date and asked me on a second one. I think he gave up cause I made it clear, I don’t do casual. 🤷🏾‍♀️

7. The only time I ever considered asking a man out was a previous coworker of mine. I was too nervous to do it in person plus I didn’t want it to be awkward if he rejected me in person. I waited a few months after I quit the job to do it via Facebook. He ignored my friend request so I blocked him out of embarrassment and hoped that maybe he just didn’t remember me. I realized that reaching out to him was just a huge mistake in general since after I blocked him, he started making fake profiles and him and his current fiancé mock/harass me on pretty much every social media site I have been on since then. They managed to obtain my number and harass me via phone as well now. Never felt more humiliated or naive in my entire adulthood.

8. Looong story short

   I asked a guy out in college and he said no because and I quote “You look like you’re 13 and it freaks me out”

   Felt real bad lol

9. I did ask a guy out at a friends bbq a few years ago. She and her partner had been hyping him up for a while before we finally met and I got brave that afternoon and gave him my number. He seemed surprised but happy about it. Nothing came of it after I never heard from him and then found out after he had just started seeing someone recently.

   If I had known prior to meeting him that he was dating someone I never would have made my move

10. I asked my very first crush out. He laughed in my face and called my ugly. I haven’t asked anyone out since.

11. One said he wasn’t looking for anything. Six weeks later he was all over another girl.

    Another guy backed away in horror when I suggested we go out sometime.

12. Didn’t “ask him out” but I was into a guy and just kinda texted him and said “hey I kinda have feelings for you, any chance you feel the same or have any interest in me that way?” Done this 5 times over a period of like 4 years to 5 diff guys lol the first guy told me he was interested and wanted to get to know me..it didn’t pan out lmao the next 3 guys just said basically they just thought of me as a friend and weren’t Interested in me romantically..the 5th time he said YES!! And now we’re married, going on 9 years😆

13. Wasn’t turned down initially but he slowly ghosted. During which time I would ask if he had second thoughts as a way of giving him an out but he’d insist everything was “perfect”