As a man I realize that a lot of men go very long periods of time without receiving a compliment that is unrelated to work. I’ve always been curious what compliments have moved other men the most. What is something that still sticks with you when you need to bring your spirits up?

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1. “You’re a good man”
   Brings me up everytime.

2. A girl once told me mine was the thickest cock she’s ever rode. She squirted on me while riding me cowgirl, so I’m inclined to believe her. Still gives me a confidence boost to this very day.

3. When my best friend told me that I was his safe space

4. That’s a very true statement. I had another guy tell me that he thought I was going to be very important to the civilian drone club that was just starting. It was inspirational to me, I am still involved with it to this day.

5. I don’t give a fuck if i get complemented or not. I just think of what makes me angry and use that as motivation

6. Good music can raise all spirits.

7. Most of these are quite wholesome, and I can dig that. Thank you for sharing!

8. when i was in college so long ago visiting home, a friend came by with a girl he had met and the three of us went out joy riding. but when i was first getting into the car, she said hello and introduced herself and told me i smelled really nice.

   for whatever reason that stuck with me. I’ve never considered myself to be attractive and i definitely don’t command attention, but that simple compliment still randomly pops into my head, like yeah, it’s still worth it to try.

9. When somone brings up my hard work to control myself

   For example one friend told me in front of others that “if the devil is real he clearly can’t beat this guy ” and it’s one of the nicest things somone said to me

10. Someone said I smelled good like 5 years ago and I’m still riding that high

11. Honestly when one of my guy friends compliments me on a haircut or new clothes it feels great!

12. I love being told that I’m a good person or that they feel safe around me. But once, a woman told me “Oh yeah, you DO have pretty eyes” and it just felt amazing.

13. When people say they like my cooking is always a pick me up.

14. Not too long ago my daughter who is in her late twenties says she thinks about me everyday and honestly one of the most beautiful things anybody has ever said to me

15. This cashier told me he liked my hairstyle last week, felt really nice to hear as I put effort into my appearance. Last time I got a compliment was maybe 6/7 years ago and it was something related to my assignment in class.

16. So, I will tell you all what compliment has quite literally saved my life. My friends, and I(about 7 of them, and my partner) we’re all camping at a music festival, and I was dealing with something that had me sitting alone for a few hours. It was the day that my dad had died, and though it was two years prior that day hit me hard. I don’t cry often, or really openly show sadness very expressively. The only one of them that likely knew what was wrong was my partner, and she wouldn’t have brought this up to our friends in this scenario. As a group my little family walked up to me, and said basically this “You’re the biggest personality of all of us, and you regularly help most of us when we need it. You’re the guy who stabilizes the shifty situations, and we look to you for comfort when it’s needed, and you’re available. We love you, and we’d really appreciate your company right now.” It wasn’t simultaneous, or clearly stated like that, but that is what it boiled down to. Any time I start to hurt in a way I can’t beat, I use this like a torch to get me through the bullshit. Thanks for sharing!

17. Generally speaking for me. Any compliment that isnt work related becomes a “core memory” as it were.

    Like I was told yesterday by 3 strangers over discord (no cam, just mic) that I have a great voice apparently. The last time I had received a compliment was back in like either 2010 or 2011, when I was told by a woman that I have pretty eyes.

18. Once, in therapy, I was told that I’m very intelligent when it comes to my emotions, and good at thinking through anxiety and anger instead of reacting, and I think about it a lot.

19. “Don’t stop being like yourself”

    I’m quite insecure about myself and honestly, for a moment, because of this compliment, I felt like everything was ok.

20. Anything, any genuine compliment from someone will brighten my day.

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