I (M21) am getting desperate for love, care and attention. I don’t know why but I am always trying to get attention of every female friend of me. Recently I have noticed that I have a big crush on my best friend (F20) and I care for her a lot and crave for her attention and care a lot but she only treat me as a friend which makes me more desperate for love.
I am craving to have a relationship in which my partner genuinely cares for me. I don’t know what to do just getting more and more desperate for love day by day
Tldr: I am getting desperate for love, care and carve to be in a relationship which I am not getting it and making me more desperate
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You may want to check out emotional deprivation schema, or schema therapy. Perhaps even narcissistic personality disorder. Not every narcissist is grandiose, some like myself are more covert. (Or alternatively in some cases dependent personality disorder.)
It could be at the root of all this is a lack of having your emotional needs met as a child. A good parter would be someone who can help you do that. Remever 20 is quite young. Get out there are start finding dates. Try apps if you have to. And be prepared to be rejected, but don’t forget to look for what you need in the person you’re considering dating.
Okay, dude. Here some advise you can follow that helped me in my early twenties with dating and my frustrations. (Got it from my mentor, God bless him!)
– Realize this, you may be not in need for a relationship with anyone, but in need of self-assurance and self-love.
– Socialize with your friends more, have fun.
– Focus on yourself first. Career, health and finance growths will give more boost in life.
– Start approaching women just to say Hi, and fully expect to get rejected. HEAR ME, prepare yourself to get rejected, but consider this, at least you tried and failed. It is easy to be afraid and hoping something fall onto your lap.
Regarding your crush, make a move now and get the result, whether it’s good or bad. Or you can maintain your friendship, crush your feelings (PERMANENTLY) and try with other girls.