I (28M) met this woman (32F) on Hinge, hit it off, had a great first date, ended with a kiss (she initiated), she invites me out for a 2nd date, where she told me that she’s getting more of a ‘friend’ vibe from me than a ‘romantic’ one. I said I understand and respect her feelings and choice, and we talk for a bit more about what she’s looking for and how she perceives me. We’re not compatible long term (I want kids and she doesn’t), but also she said that it feels like I don’t really know what I want while she does. I took it in stride and texted her later my desire to get to know her more as friends, and she agreed.
I’m not planning on bringing this up for at least a few months, so I can take some time to myself and get my mind right; but should I even consider asking if she would be open to a casual relationship, no exclusivity, with the expectation that either of us can continue to date and look for what we’re looking for and stop if that happens?
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“Friend” vibe usually means no attraction/chemistry for the person saying that.
She’s turned off by how passive you are…
– She initiated the first kiss.
– She was the one who invited you out on a second date. For all we know, she probably invited you out for the first date or you waited weeks/months to ask her out.
– She gets the vibe that you have no direction and you don’t know what you want
– once again, you are considering WAITING a couple months to request a casual relationship so you are being passive af again
All of this is not a good look to women.