I (27F) met this guy (21M) online and our friendship escalated (we sexted a few times), and I’m going on a holiday to his country. I’m travelling solo in Europe, his country is like 1h plane ride away from my town). We just want to have fun.
I’m staying in city A, but he is from city B, commuting every day to city C for studies. Basically these three cities are 40mins away by train from each other (let’s say max 1h). I arrive on Sunday afternoon and I leave on Thursday morning.
We talked about meeting and he suggested that I either come for a day to city C, where he studies, or he can come to city A.
Tbh I am more interested in visiting as much as possible in city A, but I understand that he has courses (I used to be a student too and even now, as an employee, it would be hard for me to travel to other cities during the week.) Aaand also if things get physical it would be much easier in my hotel room lol. There’s also this thing that “uh, if he wants me he will travel for me.”
He seems shy and inexperienced and I don’t know how to do it without acting like I’m entitled to his visit and also without being too agreeable and doing what he wants me to do just because he might not want to put in any effort.
TL;DR: meeting a guy in person, in his country, should he travel to the city I’m visiting or should I travel to his?
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I don’t know, Op.
When I was 27 years I never considered having a romantic or sexual relationship with a still-wet-behind-the-ears puppy. But that’s me.
You’d rather he come to city A, ask him to do that.
Let him be responsible for his studies and workload. He can make his own priorities. If he feels like you’re asking for too much, he can negotiate.
He offered. Stop overthinking.
You’re more interested in A. He offered A. What is the issue?