I have told my partner (51) on multiple occasions I do not like him pissing in my garden. It’s my house and he moved in around 5 years ago. He has a drink problem and insists on weeing in the garden like a child. He can’t fathom why I don’t like it. Please help as this is now at relationship ending point!
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Tell him this is a relationship breaking point and be consequent next time with your actions. If he does not care about such a simple boundarie, he also does not care too much about the relationship.
Damn he’s 51 and doesn’t respect boundaries, sounds like you really settling for trash.
He doesn’t care how you feel. Respond appropriately.
I’d be more upset about his alcoholism than pissing outside but maybe that’s a cultural difference?
What are you all on? Peeing in the garden is gross and not normal! Leave this toddler and find some guy who has learned some basic hygienic behaviour.
At 51 he is too old for this shit. You shouldn’t have to request a 51yo with a drinking problem that he not pee in the garden
Wtaf. Even my dog knows not to piss in the garden.
He’s in his 50s and treats your property like a toilet.
It’s not going to get better from here. And drink related dementia could be kicking in shortly – it’s a steep downturn after 50. Get rid before you end up as his carer too. The longer you stay with him, the more adult man urine is going into your shrubs.
God, it must bloody REEK round yours on a warm day. I would get rid, and definitely would not want eau de piss on my patio especially in the weather we’ve been having.
Why do you need a partner with drinking problem?
So he’s an alcoholic who knows you don’t like him pissing in the garden and chooses to do so anyway.
Yes…….
Is it wrong to think he should be able to just stop? Nope. Is it wrong to wonder what is wrong with him? Nope. Will he stop? Nope
Drinking will never be an excuse of someone Do a mistake .. he’s going it intentionally … guess you dating a child .
He is peeing outside, most men pee outside, either get over it or move on….,
If it was my garden, I’d probably pee in it until the day I died. But I would never pee in someone else’s garden if they didn’t approve, nor would I pee in a shared garden if the person I was sharing it with didn’t approve. Dude needs to grow up.
Your answer is the your last line. Really, he needs help but you cannot be the answer.
A drunk? Acting irrationally? Irresponsibly? Not listening?
No that’s never happened to anyone before. /s
Not to be mean but pee has good nutrients for plants. It’s a great fertilizer for plants. So even though you think this act is bad or childish. He’s actually helping the plants.
Is garden a euphemism for yard? If so then idk, I piss in my yard on the fence everyday. It saves water because I don’t have to flush a toilet everytime. If he’s literally pissing on a vegetable garden or a pretty collection of flowers and plants type garden then that sucks, he shouldn’t do that.
Just let him pee
Is it unrealistic to expect your partner with a drinking problem to listen to you about something this foolish? Yes.
I can’t fathom why you don’t like it either. Why do you care that he pees in your garden? It’s actually good for the garden. Is he pissing directly on your vegetables? Doing it in sight of the neighbors?
However, the fact that your 51 year old partner has a drinking problem and is routinely ignoring your requests IS a problem. That’s something worth pursuing, and possibly even ending the relationship over, if it is a pattern.
It’s not unrealistic. Honestly I’m jealous. My husband has started peeing in the tub. I’ve asked him not to and I bleach twice a day but it reeks. Just looking for a pen to sign some divorce papers.
This is disturbing and childish. Id threaten him if he doesnt get his act together. Im so sorry for you!
I understand if a child did something like that but a 51 year old?!? Also it’s your house if he can’t respect your boundaries then he should pack it up and leave
So is your toilet broken?….Why is he pissing outside? Does he shit in the house?🤔
Run girl run that makes no sense at all!!!!
You have it turned around. He’s an alcoholic, that’s your issue, not the peeing. Peeing in the garden & being unable to respect reasonable requests are result of his alcoholism.
His choice on where to go is just a symptom of his larger problem with alcohol. If he has no interest in fixing that, you’re only going to replace toilet habits with other drink issues.
That’s the hard question you have to ask. Will he stop drinking? Does he want to stop? If not, you’re only putting a bandage on an infected wound.
>He has a drink problem and insists on weeing in the garden like a ~~child~~ **thug**.
Might I suggest a correction to one of your statements?