Hi All
I don’t know where to start or turn about my issue, I’m 23 in a gay relationship with my 30 year old boyfriend we moved in together 6 months ago when we moved in there wasn’t any sex at all we was fine during our long distance relationship with lot of sex now a couple of weeks ago I spoke to him about why our sex life was bad considering it was twice in 6 months he then told me that “I’m not sexually attracted to you but I love you and want you in my life” during this time I’m confused about this whole topic and now sex is non existent and a awkward subject to talk about any advice would be helpful Thank you
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If sec is an important part of a relationship to you then you’re not compatible.
You have an obligation to yourself to be happy in your relationship. If you are not, it’s time for you to take action. If you are unsatisfied with your sex life and your partner is not willing to step it up, it’s time to leave.
Some ppl just don’t match on the sexual level. Take it from someone who’s partner of 3 years never wanted to have sex, it only gets worse. You deserve someone who loves you AND can satisfy your needs. He’s never going to be that man. Sometimes love isn’t enough and though this thought is painful, it’s the truth. You need to be true to yourself on this situation. If an open relationship is not what you want, please leave
Not everyone’s sex drive is the same. I believe, one of two – people love, to have sex or they have sex, to get love. Intimacy is different from one person to the next. Intimacy is not necessarily physical. Couples that have been together for years, may have started like rabbits and years later, it becomes once a month or not at all; yet intimacy is stronger than ever. They are implanted into each other’s life with an unbreakable bond.
Maybe being sexual is a hard stretch for him, not necessarily that he is not attracted to you that way. Does he make you feel like you are his life otherwise? Is the physical something you can do without? If you answer is no, then maybe he is not the one for you.
Thank you all for your wise words