M/27 and never been in a relationship. For context I have a masters degree and I’m an educator. I go to the gym every day. I have multiple hobbies. I play multiple instruments. I’m good with children. I think I have a lot of good qualities to me.
I’m on like ten dating apps for about the last 4 years and I haven’t gotten one date.
I will say I can be a little bit socially awkward.
I don’t know what to do at this point. How much can someone truly build and improve themselves that they become attractive to others?
Like I think I’m a decent looking guy. There are things I am confident about and things I need to build confidence.
I don’t know what to do anymore?
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How tall are you?
Everything else sounds quite good, the social awkwardness aside.
Also dating apps are almost useless for most men so try meeting women through mutual friends (assuming cold approaching women would be too nerve racking, but otherwise do that).
Join social groups with people with similar interests and hang out IRL. Possibly meet someone though that means.
Either you are short or verrryyyy awkward (over text and in person I take it?)
Still working on yourself and be happy as you are. People usually need others to manipulate or fill a hole in their lives. If you feel yourself “socially awkward” is because you are free. Still like that dude.
>I’m on like ten dating apps for about the last 4 years and I haven’t gotten one date.
Are you only using dating apps?
Problem with apps is that they allow Amazon-like shopping for partners. You have hundreds of choices and you can filter only the best to review them. Therefore if you’re lacking in some aspect (mainly physical appearance) women there will ignore you and go for one of hundreds of awesome looking guys.
Without the apps you don’t have a multitude of potential partners listed at any time and you have to take time to evaluate each date before rejecting them. Some level of scarcity compels the women to get to know guys more before they decide whether reject them, so non-perfect guy have a chance if they are good in other less superficial aspects.
You probably just need to learn how to flirt. Girls don’t want a sales pitch they want to feel comfortable and have fun. Force yourself out of your comfort bubble and start practicing
If u been on dating app for 4 years and havent landed one date, I really dont think off line dating would be better for u. I highly suggest getting a dating profile review.
More important, u need to learn how to talk to woman in general as a potential romantic partner.
On dating apps why aren’t you getting dates? Are you not matching? Or are you fucking up the banter?