There’s a girl who I caught looking at me a few times. I know I look good, but I never dated someone who isn’t at least noticeably shorter than me – always assumed that girls aren’t interested unless you are taller. I see her staring at me – a lot. I also know from a friend that she is single. Would a girl be interested in a guy who is about their height?
This is at a church, if it matters.
And uh…. this sub is forcing me to include ages – guessing she’s around 22F, and I’m 23M.
tl;dr: girl is the same height as me and keeps looking at me – is it worth pursuing if we are the same height?
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She knows how tall you are and clearly that isn’t a problem for her. It sounds like it’s more of a you thing.
Lol whats this height nonsense?
Lots of girls don’t give a fuck about height and if she’s tall this girl is probably used to dating guys around her height.
I’m a tallish girl so clearly biased, but in my experience it seems to be short girls who are adamant guys be significantly taller than them.
I guess I don’t understand why not?
She seems into you. She sees your height. The only one holding you back here is you with your misogynistic assumptions about what women want. We want you to talk to us like we’re more than a height, some boobs, whatever. Just treat her like a person.
Hell yeah it’s always worth pursuing dawg, love me some long legged babes. Climb her like a monkey and leave her satisfied
I’m 27 and 5’3 idc if a female is shorter or taller. Shorter is cool don’t get me wrong but ive dated taller with zero issues. Now if you’re a whole foot + taller I will probably nicely pass.
I’m 5’11” and always dated 5’11” girls because tall girls turned me on.
None if them gave AF
I’m 5’7”. I have dated women who are anywhere from 5’ to 6’. My wife is exactly my height.
Girls like confidence (but not arrogance) in a guy. I’ve dated women shorter, same height and taller than I am. The only limits here are the ones you create for yourself.
My parents are exactly the same height, they seem to be doing alright.
You miss every shot you don’t take.
Yep, do it.
Yes, there are vain people who believe the trope that men should be taller than their woman. And odds are yes you will run into that.
However, what works for you and her is the only thing that matters.
Where I work I’ve met many of the guys’ wives. I’ve seen “typical” height arrangements, I’ve seen husband/wife pairings of same heights, and several men who are shorter than me who have wives that are taller.
What matters is their love for each other and agreed upon lifestyle (ie: kids, budgeting, religion, the normal stuff).
If she seems into then yeah absolutely. The issue with height is that sometimes it can be difficult for shorter men to find women who are attracted to them, but you found one so I say you go for it
Only shallow women care a great deal about height, if you’re the same height or taller then she shouldn’t care and if she does she’s doing you a favour, you don’t want that type of woman in your life.
i’m friends with a married couple, and the wife is noticeably taller than her husband. they’re both very funny and happy people and there is no insecurity about their height difference
i’ve dated a guy who was two inches taller than me. we were the same height if i wore any kind of shoe with a heel, and so he hated when i wore anything other than flats. it sucked and it made me feel guilty and sad if i was wearing so much as a 1-inch heel
there are lots of girls out there who don’t care about height as much as you might think! instead, we care about how secure the guy is in his height, and we hope that he doesn’t make us feel bad for daring to be taller than his ideal girl. also, if this girl is bothered by your height, then she’s obviously not the right one for you 🙂
My husband and I are the same height almost exactly! Married 9.5 years, together for 12.5.
Give it a go! Not everyone is that critical.
Don’t worry about what “girls” supposedly like (and, btw, while some have height preferences, there are plenty that won’t care as long as you don’t get in a tailspin about it)
If she seems to like you, go for it. Just don’t go around apologizing for your height, moping about your height, or, heaven forbid, getting prickly if she wears heels, and chances are it’ll be a non-issue.
what the hell. My last boyfriend was shorter than me and that didn’t bother me one bit for our entire 3 year relationship. Don’t let this ridiculous height nonsense stop you from getting to know somebody
She can see what height you are, and seems interested. Don’t let your own fears about anything hold you back from at least talking to her. For what it’s worth, I’m female and 5’7” and my male spouse is 5’4”. Before meeting him I always thought I “should” date men taller than myself but he was worth the 5 minutes of challenging myself as to whether this was really my own preference or what I thought society expected of me.
I’m 5-10, and most of the guys I dated were shorter than me; height was not even a consideration. Not all women are shallow like that.
Let’s just say that as a tall girl, most of the time short men are the only option
If she is giving you hints then she obviously don’t care.
But a good way to trap a toxic woman asking for your height as an entry ticket you just ask what her weight is, because unlike your biological height, she can change her weight.
Fight fire with fire, let the world burn damnit lol.
But on topic, go for it, if she is shallow enough to reject you on that sole premise then she’s not worth your time.
I fail to see the issue.
Height is like degree requirement on a job posting. Yes they exist and are prevalent but does that mean you’ll never get a job without that degree? No . If you prove to be an honest good hardworking person that can get the job done suddenly the requirement doesn’t mean much. Of course there will be those out there who won’t even let you in the door but in my experience those aren’t the ones you want anyway. Good luck.
What are you – stop these posts. They are crazy.