Me and my boyfriend just moved into a new country. We ve roommates all girls except him. The day he arrived he was his usual self, loving etc. Its been past 5 days and he doesnt care for me as he used to. When it comes to cooking he is the chef I try to help him out but he is hating it being passive aggressive and doesn’t mind others helping him out. Doesnt spend some lonetime with me. He is just pushing me off when I try to hug him. It’s just driving me crazy. Today, he was sitting on the couch with this gal with ear pods nd watching movie and doesnt care to look at me or ask me. I am just so sad. I cried alot. I am unable to accept the shift. From being so sweet to idgaf feels. Where he also said I dont care about your diet. Eat whatever and let me go empty stomach.
Its affecting me emotionally which is translating to physical pain and I couldnt breath as I saw them on couch and moved out.
Idk if am over reacting! Any thoughts?
What is the right thing to do ? I am here for career purposes but this thing is just eating me up.
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So you just moved out?
How old are you?
And is this a shared apartment with your friends or?
So he can spend time with another girl but not you? Is the time he’s spending with the girl the kind of time you want but aren’t getting? If so then it’s definitely a problem
Of course it was the right thing to do, i imagine you want to be in a relationship with someone who actually likes you right? I mean, the lack of affection is one thing, but the actively pushing you away and minimizing you whenever you come to him to talk about it is completely unacceptable.
Alot about judging a person as a partner comes to how they react when you come to them with concerns, and the complete disregard of how you feel, minimizing it as simply “controlling” even though he refuses to even have a conversation about it, shows you that he doesnt really care about how you feel, just how he does, and judging by his actions he feels like you and your relationship inconvenience.
Remember how he treated you if he has the stones to try and get you back, remember that he was perfectly fine to let you be miserable and dismiss your concerns when there were no consequences to his behavior
What did he say about you moving out?
He is being mean that you break up with him. So he doesn’t feel guilty banging that other chick. Look for a new apartment and let him be his teenager self.
Focus on your career not on them. Best revenge is your succes. Take the pain and hurt to fuel your determination . You can do it for yourself. Only you can. He is worthless and soon the other girls will realize that too.
He found a new toy! Move on! Next.
You moved in 5 days ago and you think he doesn’t love you now?
Get some respect for yourself girl, you not ready to be in a relationship.
He has obviously deceived you. He doesn’t wish to be a couple with you but instead he Wants—–A New relationship with all of these roomie girls and may even be crushing on this ONE. Make plans to move out somehow or they could be asking you to leave. I don’t like it nor trust it. Good Luck. You had hooked a Pussy Fish when you left your country with this One, hun.
Wait, so if I’m reading this right, this only went on for 5 days, and you just moved to a new country? It’s hard to say without actually being there, but after moving to a new country and it only being a few days, he may have just been exhausted. And how is sitting on the couch with a roommate with EarPods in automatically mean he’s super close with her? Jumping straight to moving out this quickly either means that there’s a lot more to this than you’re telling us, or this may have been a very immature move.