Long story short: I had a disagreement with a guy I was talking to after I tried rushing things with him and he wasn’t ready for the next step. That occurred Friday, I sent him and apology text on Sunday, to which he replied he accepted my apology, had no animosity towards me, and anytime I needed to call or text I could. Now, almost a week later I DEEPLY regret my decision and wish I wouldn’t have rushed it. I think the both of us need time and patience to let something occur organically. I want to text him asking to talk in person so I can explain my regret and see if he would still like to work on it, but I’m SO SO SO terrified. Is this something I should do or is it too soon? EDIT: I’m terrified because I don’t want him to think of me as some crazy chick that can’t stop texting him
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So it sounds like the disagreement was that you wanted an official relationship right now and when he didn’t want that, you didn’t accept his answer (and maybe freaked out) and things ended? How long had you been “talking” before this disagreement?
If he doesn’t want a relationship, then I don’t think he’s going to want to meet up for some serious/”let’s see if we can work on this” talk — which is more of a serious relationship type thing to do. If you want to try to keep seeing him, I think you should instead send a breezy text, like “Hey, hope you’ve had a good week. I was thinking about what we talked about last week, and if you’re up for it, I would like to continue seeing you casually at a pace you’re comfortable with and see if this goes anywhere. Let me know if you’re up for a date next week.”
But also, you say: “I think the both of us need time and patience to let something occur organically.” But I don’t think that’s how you actually feel. You are someone who only feels happy and comfortable dating someone if you’re both on the same page of getting into an exclusive relationship fairly quickly into things. Which is ok! That’s how I feel too! I don’t think you should pretend to be the cool girl who’s fine with super casual/non-committal/FWB situations, when that’s not you. Maybe let this guy go and wait for someone who wants the same things as you.