I (30F) are having serious doubts about my (31M) fiancé.
We’ve been together for almost 7 years come October and have 2 kids together. About a week ago he asked to see my phone, no problem whatsoever because I have nothing to hide from him. He goes through it asks me questions about a few things and that was it. He offered me his phone but I couldn’t go through it at the time because I was driving. Fast forward to a couple days later we’re laying in bed and I asked him if I could see his phone and his reaction was “don’t start this shit, you’re tripping.” And refused to give me his phone. Saying he has nothing to hide from me and I should just trust him. But almost 4 months I caught him texting our neighbor telling her how gorgeous she was. That was the extent of their conversation. Still crossed a line and completely broke my trust. So I already don’t trust him, and this phone situation has just amplified my anxiety and emotions. He told me I need to get out of my head and that upset me and I started crying and he blew up again saying if I don’t stop with this bullshit he’s gonna leave etc..
Is he gaslighting me and manipulating me into dropping it?