Would especially love to hear from you if you are also a (confirmed or likely) neurodivergent man who experiences bouts of depression (or similar lows).
Would prefer answers from men in long term relationships (or when the lack of libido experienced happen during ltr); 2-3 years is fine for defining ltr for the sake of this q imo, but the longer the better.
I have slight bias towards cishet male answers and stories on this one, but only given the dynamic of my own currently ltr; I do still welcome answers and stories from queer men.
To whatever degree you are comfortable answering: – How long did you go without sex with your partner?
– Was the reason personal? If it so why? Did you tell them, and did yall fix it together? If you didn’t tell them, why? Were you conscientious that the reason was personal from the jump or did you think it was a “you” problem for a while? If the latter, how did you figure out that it was because of your partner?
– If the reason wasn’t personal, did you figure out the cause of your dropped libido? How long until you figured it out it/hat did you do to figure it out? What did you do to then fix it if at all?
Appreciate your answers. Unsurprisingly, my questions stem from a personal place, and I don’t want to be too detailed about my situation. Plus it’s just kind of embarrassing. FWIW, my partner and I have discussed the issue a number of times, and generally he doesn’t know why, says it’s not personal, but doesn’t seem motivated to try to do anything about it. I feel desperate to try to understand better even though it seems he doesn’t want to understand it himself.
TL;DR: Men, how have you dealt with a your libido changing significantly in a relationship?